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Even parents want a break from kids.

I am a parent. I have no problem with "adult-only" spaces. I don't bring my kid to a lot of places where it is not appropriate. There are plenty of child-friendly places activities for kids. Yeah, it sucks that I have to make arrangements ahead of time if want to go to an adult-only space, but that's what you do as a responsible parent.

It is only an issue if parents face discrimination for something that actually matters, like access to housing, food, and medical care or career opportunities.

When I was small my parents just didn't bring me to hotels that weren't explicitly for families. Those normal boring grown-up hotels just weren't for us until we were old enough, so we went to the fun hotels with playgrounds. Why can't we go back to that?

And people wouldn't be so annoyed by children if the parents didn't insist that they should be allowed to run around and do whatever they want. It's not just "let me go everywhere with my kids", it's "let me bring my kids and then let them yell and smash things and cry as much as they want because they are kids." There's a nice café in my city where I don't go anymore, because it's full of mothers with their toddlers from the nearby playground who just continue playing as loudly as ever. Last time I went I ended up with sand in my coffee when some kid waved around his toy car that was full of sand from the playground. The mother refused to buy me a new coffee because "he's just a kid". A beach bar by the river actual changed their policy and now refuses entry to children under 12, because it had become too expensive for them to keep replacing food and drinks every time a kid threw the sand around. And of course the parents usually refused to pay for what their kids destroyed.

If parents can't be trusted to make good decisions like "My 4-year-old who can't sit still for more than a minute should not be brought to a spa where people come to relax." or at the very least feel responsible for what they destroy, this is what happens. And if too many parents refuse to pay up when their kid destroys something, owners will prefer to ban kids.

People who say they don't like children are being hated on, but 99% of the time they just don't like children who are allowed to do whatever they want whereever they are and parents who take zero responsibility under the guise of it's just a child.

We absolutely, positively, one hundred percent need adult only spaces as well. Especially when the goal is to relax.

A lot of parents simply aren’t doing proper parenting. As a child, I was taught not to be a nuisance to others. And those others would also correct said behaviour in kids. But these days? Kids apparently have the right to be as annoying as they can be, and god forbid you tell them to knock it off… the parent actually gets offended!

So parents are really doing this to themselves. And that’s not even mentioning the fact that we have a TON of actual child friendly vacation options. Let the adults have a proper place as well.

And if child free vacationing being on the rise bothers you? Maybe look at your parenting style.

This is basically just the sanitized internet conflict again, only it's the parents wanting to force adult-only spaces to disappear instead of advertisers. What's next, banning gay and lesbian bars for not catering to straight people?

I’m for a ban on children and little yapping dogs

I wouldn't have a problem with this if it weren't for the annoyingly large fraction of parents who let their ill mannered spawn run free and let them do whatever they want.

No idea what French parents/children are like but across the pond I've had many a good time ruined by children acting way out of line and parents doing nothing at all. I wish there were more explicitly child free attractions here for that reason

Split it up so there's a family-friendly section and an adults-only section. Adults-only section can have the bar (adults in family-friendly section can still order a drink, it just has to be brought over). Family-friendly section has a play place. Each side has a pool.

Just make clothing optional.

Calm down Karen it’s ok to have different choices.

A notable exception to equal opportunity law in the US us that you are allowed to discriminate against an individual on the basis of their age, as long as it's not old age.

make it a porn hotel then

No.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Fine, is not like I was going to a resort in France anyways.

considers

So, I think that there's a valid point here that the state has an interest in facilitating child-rearing, and that that's an externality. The hotel can cause harm if people rely on hotels and child-free hotels price out child-permitting hotels.

Hmm.

I can think of a lot of problems.

If a hotel or other service wants to only provide adult access, I can imagine a whole lot of loopholes. That is, I don't think that France is going to disallow keeping children away from random thing that social norms don't want children to have, like alcohol (well, okay, this is France, so the bar might be somewhat lower). I mean, have hotel, have attached strip joint, whatever it takes; there are going to be some things that I imagine that France is going to permit as grounds for excluding children. It seems hard to make a blanket prohibition that would stop all this.

On the other hand, it also seems like in many situations, it'd be possible to let people who do want to be be away from children to have that as an option without creating issues for other users.

Maybe it'd be possible to have a best-effort attempt by hotels to simply place people and people without children together? I mean, that might get one most of the way there.

Also...is this presently causing actual problems? I mean, maybe the market will supply what the consumer wants. Hotels and apartments that don't allow cats and/or dogs are a thing (well, in the US, and I assume France), and it doesn't seem like that's created fundamental issues.

kagis

It sounds like there are hotels here in California that prohibit kids and hotels that provide babysitting as a service to guests. It seems like the market has provided in that case.

Maybe first see if this is definitely an issue, and if so, do some kind of targeted mandate? Like, I totally appreciate that maybe a hotel might be the only place in a remote area, and if it's adults-only, that creates problems, because it's the only option...and if it soaks up all the adults-only customers, that might prevent an adults-and-kids service from entering the market. But...I can also imagine that it might just not come up, because hotels in that kind of situation don't want to sacrifice customers with kids.