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[–] zabadoh@ani.social 41 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Snoring, medical term apnea, is a medical indicator, placing you at higher risk of serious medical conditions such as diabetes, strokes, and heart attacks.

Your life insurance rates go up if they find out.

My wife snitched on me to my doctor, I had a sleep study at a clinic, and now I use a CPAP machine when I sleep, which supposedly helps.

Edit: Oh yeah, and snoring/apnea is linked to grinding your teeth, which can lead to root canals, tooth extraction.

Not fun or cheap.

[–] HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 9 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

Your life insurance rates go up if they find out.

Is this some sort of American joke that I'm too European to understand?

Excuse my over used joke, but that cant be true?

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[–] winkerjadams@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Do you feel more rested now or notice any difference?

[–] Geldaran@lemmy.world 12 points 2 weeks ago

I'm not the person you asked, but I've been on my CPAP for a year now. Yes, it does what they say, but I hate it with a passion. She can sleep, but now I wake up 4 times a night feeling like the damn thing is suffocating me.

[–] zabadoh@ani.social 9 points 2 weeks ago

I haven't noticed any difference from before, but my wife has stopped nudging me awake to get me to stop snoring.

[–] lemmylommy@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

Been on it for a couple of years. It’s a difference like night and day. You don’t really notice how fucked you are by the apnea until you are not.

[–] InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 31 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Significant other needs to get treatment. CPAP, for instance. Lose weight, if applicable. Surgery if necessary. Address the root of the problem because it can be a significant health issue for them, while also impacting your health via mechanisms related to lack of restorative sleep.

If it's just a once in a blue moon thing, and waking them up / having them change positions doesn't resolve it, I will go sleep in another room, put in ear plugs or listen to some relaxing music with earbuds in to drown out the snoring.

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[–] WandowsVista@lemmy.world 27 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I snore pretty loudly, have since I was a kid. doctors told me I have "overdeveloped adenoids" and pretty much always will. it doesn't bother me, but for my partner's sake, I've tried a few things.

nasal strips didn't really do anything. the mouth guards are incredibly uncomfortable and I've heard they can loosen teeth, so I finally broke down and tried mouth tape. it works pretty well. it improves my sleep a little and my wife's quite a bit. the name brand stuff is expensive, but it's basically just KT tape.

I keep plenty of that on hand for sports injuries and now I just cut a piece into little strips and it does the job. although, according to my wife, I still manage to honkshoo mimimimi a bit out the sides of my mouth.

[–] hereiamagain@sh.itjust.works 23 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

"honkshoo mimimimi"

I heard this in my head perfectly, nicely done

[–] zabadoh@ani.social 13 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (8 children)

Re: Mouth guards

Many years ago, my dentist advised me to have him make a mouth guard to protect my teeth.

I didn't do that, thinking it wasn't needed.

About 10 years later, these last few years, I have had root canals, tooth extractions and expensive dental implants on my rear-most molars.

The oral surgeon showed me an X ray of my teeth in those areas: My molars were ground flat and were cracked because I grind my teeth so hard because of snoring/apnea, and probably stress.

Take some advice from someone who has experience: Get the fucking mouth guards.

And look into getting fitted for a CPAP machine:y dentist said it helped somewhat with the grinding, but it wasn't a cure-all in the end for my teeth.

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[–] akunohana@piefed.blahaj.zone 21 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] l_isqof@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

I bet that's even louder than snoring.

[–] akunohana@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Yeah, the gif is just a representation of what I feel at the time. What I actually do is kiss her on her cheek, whisper in her ear that she's the most beautiful person in the entire universe, upon which she smiles slightly which in turn disrupts her snoring. Bada bing bada boom.

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[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 19 points 2 weeks ago

By poking me so I lay slightly differently so I don't snore.

[–] chrisbtoo@lemmy.ca 14 points 2 weeks ago

Every time she says she didn't sleep well, I apologise for snoring just in case.

Every time I'm awake in the night and she's snoring, I just try and ignore it.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It doesn't bother me. I can sleep in any conditions.

[–] raldone01@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I love that ability I just have to be tired enough which I usually am.

When I decide to sleep on the cold floor for example I sometimes regret that on the next day though.

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[–] Bluegrass_Addict@lemmy.ca 11 points 2 weeks ago

I just lost weight and the snoring went away l.. so yeh

[–] ActualGrapesTasteGreen@piefed.zip 10 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I lost a lot of weight and it stopped

[–] return2ozma@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

How much did you lose? Congrats

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[–] Maestro@fedia.io 10 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

After years of my wife nagging me, I finally got a sleep study done. Turns out I have severe sleep apnea (over 60 stops per hour!) and got a CPAP. It was life changing for me. I never knew how terribly sleep deprived I was. Now I don't snore at all!

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[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 10 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

I use a CPAP and it is wonderful!!!! I don’t snore anymore and she very rarely does.

I ignored using it for years until my state mandated that if you don’t use it you will loos your driver’s license so I started using it.

I felt like an idiot for not using it sooner. It was insane how much I was not sleeping.

I wasn’t snoring I was suffocating myself.

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[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 8 points 2 weeks ago

If the partner is snoring loudly they might have a form of sleep apnea. They should get a sleep study done just to check. My husband's snoring was so loud I could sometimes hear it through earplugs. He had sleep apnea, now he uses a CPAP machine and no more snoring and better sleep for both of us.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 weeks ago

A nudge usually does the trick. Sometimes a gentle push is needed.

And when I shared a bedroom with unsignificant others (army), whoever snored got army boots thrown at them. Not recommended for significant others.

[–] schmorpel@slrpnk.net 8 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

My own room. From reading the comments a lot of people just seem to suffer through sleepless nights or try to dictate their partner's health/behaviour. Look, you can love each other without sleeping in the same bed, or even living in the same house.

Edit: you asked for input from those who DO share a bed, sorry. I suffered too for many years, and my health deteriorated. Now even next to a non-snoring partner I'll get zero sleep. Which is why I advocate for considering separate rooms.

[–] WagnasT@piefed.world 8 points 2 weeks ago

If I fall asleep on my back I will probably start to snore, she will poke me and I will probably roll onto a side without waking up and stop snoring.

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

If you're sleeping with a partner who snores, get them to get a sleep study done. If they have sleep apnea, the snoring is the sound of them dying slowly.

[–] ChonkyOwlbear@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago

I had deviated septum surgery. Took 2 years and $20k but breathing through both nostrils for the first time in my life was worth it.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I got used to it. It used to keep me up, but now I hardly even notice it.

[–] nocturne@slrpnk.net 7 points 2 weeks ago
[–] VibeSurgeon@piefed.social 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Ear plugs help. There are good ones that don't bother you that much when sleeping.

[–] cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

as someone with auditory sensory issues, loops have changed my life. they have different designs for different uses, i cant sleep without mine and going out in public is also much easier for me!

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[–] marshadow@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

By poking him and telling him to roll over onto his side.

[–] sol6_vi@lemmy.makearmy.io 6 points 2 weeks ago

I'm getting my cpap tomorrow. They wouldn't even let me finish the sleep study without hooking me up to one. I do not look like a cpap user let me tell you. 5'8'', 180lbs. Anyone could have apnea. So glad my wife made me go. Excited to sleep without starving my brain of oxygen every night.

[–] bhamlin@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

Snore louder to assert my dominance.

But for real, you do get used to it. I've found I don't snore as loudly when side sleeping vs on my back. I need quiet to get to sleep but not to stay asleep, while my partner will tolerate some noise. So I usually try to fall asleep first and things work out.

If I don't, I usually have a tough night. ☺️

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 weeks ago

My sibling sleeps in a separate room from their partner, not only because they snore but also because they thrash around a lot.

[–] brynden_rivers_esq@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 weeks ago

I just kinda gently jostle her a little until she stops. Its usually about the angle of the head in my experience (at least for my wife!)

[–] CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

Slightly pulling the pillow can work if the person isn’t a horrible chronic snorer. Making a person move their head while sleeping will often make them adjust their whole body readjusting their airway and that can both help them sleep better and snore less but it only works on light to moderate snoring, people who are super loud when they sleep probably have something going on that isn’t just position of sleep.

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 weeks ago

Let me just be really annoying and say, if snoring is something more serious, like sleep apnea, it can shorten your life and lead to coronary issues. Please talk to your doctor, when you can.

[–] lost_faith@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 weeks ago

I gently poke/push her until she moves or wakes up

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 5 points 2 weeks ago

Eventually, you tune it out. Took several years for me. We both snore much less now though so I'm probably no longer immune. You should encourage testing for sleep apnea imo.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

Oof my husband snores. I let him fall asleep first because it's worst when he first falls asleep, when I get in bed I say please stop snoring and he can for long enough I get to sleep, and I guess it's just not as loud after that because I almost never wake up from it. If I snore it wakes me up though, happens rarely but sometimes if I am on my back will snort while asleep and it jerks me awake - I don't understand how my husband can sleep though his own snoring, at all .

[–] Yeller_king@reddthat.com 5 points 2 weeks ago

Snore louder than them.

[–] folekaule@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

Earplugs. If those fail, gently poke or push until she turns over, hopefully without waking up.

[–] 9point6@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

Background white noise from a fan seems to be the main thing that helps

[–] cattywampas@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

I don't, neither of us snore.

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