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Ones that come to mind for me are Vegas, Toronto, Paris

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[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 89 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (9 children)

Salt Lake City, Utah. Utterly gorgeous, but strongly reconsider moving there if you aren't a Mormon. The whole valley/arguably state has a constant fog of oppressively bad juju looming over it, despite being truly breathtaking.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 59 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Relevant but I'm currently going down this Bricks & Minifigs vs Ben rabbit hole and wow these mormons are creepy as fuck.

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 53 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Their entire history is insanely, deeply fucked in ways most people don't realize. Dating back to the very beginning.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Do you have any recommended reading?

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 42 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

So, so much. My very long comment got wiped before I could finish--I was trying to find an old 1800s newspaper account from the Library of Congress, so consider yourself lucky I'm relegated to a phone keyboard. I'm working on a book myself, so I've got huuuuuundreds of sources, but many of them are historic and hard to share conveniently. For a quick variety:

Fifteen Years Among the Mormons by Mary Ettie V. Smith (1860) is one of the most breathtaking page-turners I've ever read. Like many works that touch on history Mormons don't like, they've been very successful at whitewashing this to a mere "unfair anti-Mormon polemic," but...eh. Very complicated, but it really has the ring of truth to me compared to other similar sources. That's the source of the screenshot re: SLC.

Exposé of Polygamy in Utah: A Lady’s Life among the Mormons by Fanny Stenhouse (1872) is a favorite. She had a sharp wit.

No Man Knows My History by Fawn Brodie (1945) was a nuclear bomb of a book.

In Sacred Loneliness: The Plural Wives of Joseph Smith (1997) goes into the MINIMUM 33 girls and women Smith "celestially wed," including minors, mother-daughter pairs, etc...

For a much more accessible option, look up Mormon Stories on YouTube. The church recently sued them, so you know they're good. And lest you sneeze at that, the Mormons successfully forced fucking WIKILEAKS to take down one of the church's internal instruction manuals (it's copyrighted material of the literal legal corporation that is the Mormon church). They've got crazy money, crazy connections. You've no idea.

Look up what was the first Sherlock Holmes book (Part 2) and ask yourself why captive Mormon women became such a theme then. In the UK!? Yup. And so much more.

Did you know that the Mormon church owns 2% of the landmass of Florida? Like right now?

I'm just trying to say: it's a deeeeep fucking rabbit hole.

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[–] JeanValjean@piefed.social 16 points 1 week ago

I lived in Provo for 2 years. I'd still be there if not for the Mormons.

[–] cattywampas@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I've heard that, in terms of geography and natural scenery, Salt Lake City is the city people want when they think they want Denver.

[–] scytale@piefed.zip 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

What do you get instead with actual Denver?

[–] Frozengyro@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago

High plains just before the mountains. SLC is more in the mountains

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[–] otacon239@lemmy.world 46 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Phoenix. Don’t ever make the mistake of moving there or you’ll have a hard time leaving. It’s the closest thing to purgatory I’ve ever experienced. I certainly aged, but I don’t think I matured a day while I was there.

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[–] TootSweet@lemmy.world 42 points 1 week ago

Council Bluffs, IA. I once had family there and there's a story in our family. One of them had a radio of some sort that works on trucker frequencies and he overheard a conversation between trucker CBs that went something like:

  • "I've never been to Council Bluffs before. What's it like?"
  • "Well, if the earth needed an enema, Bluffs is where they'd put the tube."

It used to be a railroad town, but the railroad pulled out and left economic carnage in its wake. Meanwhile, Omaha, just across the river, is comparatively very affluent with skilled jobs in tech, so Bluffs is kindof "the slums" (casualties of the worst end of capitalism.) and Omaha is all gentrified and hip, which rubs salt in the wound, and those who are still in Bluffs are the ones who lacked the wherewithal (luck, credit (social, financial, or otherwise), mental health, etc) to move to Omaha. Last time I was in Bluffs (and that was even before I knew the rail background story) it really felt like there was just a pall over the whole place. The strangers you saw at the grocery store or whatever just seemed "down and out" in an undefinable way. The local government seems some combination of corrupt and incompetent and the few folks I know of who still live in Bluffs there are racists and MAGA nuts and grifters and (I say this with love) deeply mentally ill. It's a disturbingly strange and depressing place.

[–] Zak@lemmy.world 32 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm not sure I'd describe it as "bad vibes", but Detroit has always struck me as charmingly postapocalyptic. It's the only place I've ever seen fires in barrels in the middle of streets in real life.

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[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 27 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Dubai is the most liminal fucking city in the world. If a hospital corridor was a city, it would be Dubai.

The opposite of this would be Hanoi. That's a city where each street feels like a living, breathing animal.

As someone who grew up and lived in Dubai in the 80s to the late 2000s I cannot find fault in your assessment.

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 25 points 1 week ago (4 children)

I never want to go back to St Louis.

[–] chunes@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

This. Or anywhere near Missouri, for that matter.

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[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If you think St. Louis is bad (which it is), stay well away from East St. Louis

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[–] textik@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Fucking Dallas, TX. Of all the major cities in North America, Dallas is the most devoid of culture. It is a city inhabited by cars, not people. If you took the average of all North American cities, it would be Dallas, but not in a way that derives any value from the cities included in the average. If you asked an LLM to generate an American metroplex, you would get a low-resolution, but otherwise one-to-one map of Dallas and Ft. Worth. Dallas is the backrooms except with a clear view of the sky.

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[–] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 22 points 1 week ago (1 children)
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[–] cmbabul@slrpnk.net 18 points 1 week ago (10 children)

Coeur d’Alene, Idaho but really just the whole panhandle

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[–] wieson@feddit.org 16 points 1 week ago

Hagen, NRW.
In front of the train station, 3 casinos. Not shiny ones but rancid slot machine cellars.
Smashed door of the job centre.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (5 children)

IME, Brussels is truly awful. Grey, ugly, depressing and decaying.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 week ago

I love Belgium but Brussels is alarmingly lame

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[–] Alienmonkey@mander.xyz 15 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I see no one here has ever had to pit stop in Gary Indiana. Or pass through Flint?

Harrisonburg PA surprised me a bit as well. Super industrial parts were Flint esq from what I remember and the vibe downtown felt just off.

I have had no issues in Detroit, Chicago, Baltimore, or Cleveland. I think Cleveland gets a bad rap but I haven't spent more than a few days there.

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[–] radiofreebc@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (11 children)
  • San Pedro Sula, Honduras
  • Kingston, Jamaica
  • Salvador de Bahia, Brazil
  • Calgary, Canada
  • Miami, USA
  • Naples, Italy
  • Abu Dhabi, UAE
  • Riyadh, Saudi Arabia
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[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (7 children)

....Toronto? Wtf is wrong with Toronto

[–] hpx9140@fedia.io 13 points 1 week ago

Spent 30 odd years in TO.

Theres a lot of toxicity there. Been punched in the head, throat, kicked in the back (lol), spat on, had slurs screamed my way, and hit by cars (yes, plural).

But hpx, what’d you do to provoke all this?

Nothing, friend. I’m quiet, polite in interactions, keep my yap shut and mind my own business. Every single one of these happened out the blue with little to no input my end. Each left me more flabbergasted than the last.

Some I actually get - unhoused or mentally compromised folk lashing out at unlucky targets. But others had more malice - the pack of skinheads looking for a fight or drivers who felt inconvenienced because they had to stop at crosswalks.

But hey, least it ain’t Calgary. Fuuuuck that place.

[–] lemmyng@piefed.ca 12 points 1 week ago

OP must be québécois.

[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I don't get Paris either. It's a big city, what do you expect? I love it. I'm currently in Prague and I reaaaalllly prefer Paris.

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[–] lonefighter@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

Johnstown PA.

Was there a little over a decade ago on a beautiful summer Saturday afternoon. There was barely any traffic in the city, and we were the only people out walking around (we stopped by during travel to see the flood museum, it's small but really interesting and slightly eerie, if you're ever in the area go check it out, it's worth the stop). I don't think we really saw other people until we went over to the edge of town to another main tourist attraction (the incline plane railroad).

Although to be fair most of the rural East Coast (and I guess the US, but I've mostly traveled around the East Coast states) is like that. A bunch of sad towns that maybe were something once when their respective industries were booming, but now are sad, impoverished towns filled with once beautiful buildings that are falling apart.

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[–] Meatwagon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Dallas is a soulless corpse where you can't walk anywhere due to highways, but it you use the highways then it's like trying to dodge clicking on sketchy ads trying to trick you to click them on PC, except the ads are toll roads. Also every car is trying to kill you.

I tried to go to a music show once. It was in a really run down part of town with sketchy people standing around staring at us. There was no signage. We weren't even sure we were in the right place and no one looked friendly so we just left, and got hit by more surprise tolls on the way back. You can't leave your house there without having to pay money. It is the most miserable place I've ever been.

Second runner up is Port Arthur, Texas. Going to take the scenic route down the coast, are you? Well it's nothing but pipes and smoke stacks. You can see only a little bit of the marsh that used to be there. The city itself is run down, rotting houses leaning sideways with the pipes and industry always being in the backdrop. Clearly the town is receiving no tax money from the oil corporations infesting their coast in what would otherwise be a nice place. It was a mostly black population I saw outside. Inside stores the people I saw wearing plant uniforms were white or Hispanic and clearly didn't live in the immediate area. The story writes itself.

I Google the town and it turns out it used to be a nice place with a little permanent carnival on the coast with a ferris wheel and rides with a flourishing tourist industry, but all those people who could afford it moved out when the oil industry moved in and drained the town. Now the only people there are the ones who can't get out.

It was the most depressing town I've ever been through.

God I fucking hate Texas.

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[–] lennybird@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

Alamogordo, NM. All of Oklahoma.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 11 points 1 week ago (7 children)

Modesto. Fresno. Ceres. Bakersfield. Oakland. Gustine. Hilmar. Tracy.

[–] User2026@piefed.zip 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I went to Fresno once and wanted to go to a random local restaurant. Walked into one at 10 am, and it was actually a bar with quite a few people drinking for it being 10 am on a Tuesday.

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[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Trenton, NJ
Newark, NJ
actually just the whole New Jersey

wait no Asbury Park is nice.

most of New Jersey

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[–] CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Bakersfield California, drive through it once. It was like someone was making the most depressing movie about drugs and prostitution and dilapidated infrastructure so they built Bakersfield to be the backdrop

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Wow, New Orleans? I love that city.

Downtown Clearwater FL has been pretty much taken over by Scientologists and is quite creepy now.

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[–] Lazer365@feddit.nl 9 points 1 week ago

Memphis, TN. There was literally no one there on the streets and the high crime didn’t make it any more appealing. Your city really sucks when the best thing to see there is a Bass Pro Shops lol

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 9 points 1 week ago (7 children)
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[–] Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (6 children)
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[–] srasmus@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Branson, MO. I've been pretty far south, but I've never felt so many judgemental eyes on me until I went to Branson. Crazy religious stuff everywhere, casual racism and bigotry. Felt like going back in time.

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