Ask Lemmy

I create open source apps (mainly for my own needs). All of them have zero forks and zero stars, but I don't mind. I love architecting apps and who knows if someone might find any of them useful someday.

I make drawings, well, just with black ink/ fineliner on paper. I have a box full of them and even have some on my wall. Never tried to sell them or even post them. The only people who know it are my husband, my parents, my brother and best friend. Only abstract, maybe tattoo-ish.

Have done this since.. highschool. Comes and goes in phases. When the mood strikes. Have always loved that my hand-eye coordination is so good, can make fluid lines and it almost looks like it's printed. But well, I guess it'll keep going unnoticed. ;)

Y'all are getting validation?

Woodworking - I'm not very good at it (yet) but I keep at it and I'm convinced someday I'll make something really cool.

expanding my large collection of porn.

I don't need the recognition, I do it for the love of the game.

Holding the door.

It's just the bare minimum we should be doing for each other.

Mostly sleeping.

I started playing bass guitar on Rocksmith about 5 years ago. I'm in the top ten on most songs on the medium difficulty, and have almost 1000 hours in the game.

I've never actually played bass in front of anyone other than my ex, and I've never really tried to play without the game.

At first I thought I wanted to get good enough to join a band, or at least play along with my family, all musicians, when they get together, but it turns out I just really enjoy spending a Friday night with a half pint of whiskey and jamming alone with headphones.

Picking up trash when i am walking.

I don't do it everytime. But sometimes when i see trash on the ground and there is a trash can in the near I will pick it up.

Hiking: There is a small state park about 4 miles from my house. I go there on my lunch break and take at least a 2 mile hike. If it's a day where I'm not busy I'll go as much as 4.5 miles.

I've loved hiking since I was a teenager. It's my "me" time where I put in my earbuds and listen to an audiobook and just disengage from the rest of the world.

I post and share photography. Some of my works that I think are mediocre get a lot of attention, and some of my most-loved works are nearly ignored.

But I post for me.

Exercise. Partly because I've gotten into a sport, but I also just enjoy seeing myself get into better shape even though I'm getting older. Things that felt physically impossible to do 90 days ago feel like a breeze now. Being at my desk for 8 -12 hours out of the day is way more exhausting than spending 2 - 3 hours at the gym.

Drawing, I did a drawing recently of my persona Mew. I saw a movie with a drawn character and I became inspired enough to sit and draw for once.

I don’t really do anything at all for validation. I’m old and simply don’t give a fuck about that.

I am asking because I stream really boring streams all the time. People are welcome to tune in and check out, and there is no expectation of interaction at all. If someone gets some joy out of watching someone fly in a flight simulator listening to chill music for hours at a time, that's great.

It reminds me of this youtuber, who has thousands of videos with almost no views.
https://www.youtube.com/@TheImprovyssey

Keep doing what you are passionate about ❤️ 

Personally, I enjoy making neat, easy to follow step-by-step tutorials for my various interests and forwarding them to people who want to learn something I know about. Growing up, I didn’t have anyone to show me things and it was often overwhelming having to figure everything out on my own without a clear starting point, so I don’t want anyone else to feel the same way or to feel ashamed for not knowing something.

I love languages so I would also offer free translation for people’s projects upon request and would also translate song lyrics when translation software was much worse than it is now.

When I can, I donate anonymously to causes I support and donate blood too.

I do quite a bit of unauthorized trail maintenance. I guess helping other people is a big motivation for it but it's not like I get any credit for it as nobody is there to see me do it. It's just something I do because I then feel good about having done it.

Ride my bike to work

Drink beer. To excess, at least once a week.

Worldbuilding. I love imagining weird worlds and figuring out how stuff works in them. I have no idea how to share my worlds with others in a way that would be interesting to anyone, so the only person who knows about my projects is my girlfriend.

Gaming. I don't understand the appeal of competitive games, like at all. Even when I was fighting with other players in Dark Souls 2, I was more concerned with having fun than winning. I disabled achievements in Steam and tend to seek ways to remove achievements from other games if at all possible.

Reading. I know people read like hundreds of books per year. I start less than a dozen books a year. Maybe I'll finish one or two lol. I don't care. As far as I'm concerned, reading Wikipedia and other articles on the internet also counts as reading. And if a book keeps my attention all the way to the end, great!

Fishing. I taught my 5 year old how to fish aswell. Its makes for a nice relaxing day even if the bite is slow

Behold the cringe that is The Lonely Galaxy. It's my worldbuilding and conlanging project. Conlanging is by its nature a hobby that you can only do for its own sake, as there's no way to get nonlangers interested in your work without being talented at some other art like drawing or writing.

Read.

Makeup and fashion. Every morning, I get all glammed up just because I love it. It’s a ritual I never skip.

Writing sci-fi and making music

Gaming, often retro but not limited to. I don't need achievements or tell others about what I achieved, but converse about the experience. Admire the design and dive into worlds and have fun!

Programming games.

My latest one is probably the last one though, the plan is to just continue developing it and expanding it. It's a Slow-RPG, so there will always be new things to invent and add.

Almost everything I do is either out of a desire to so, or because I have to do it. As a kid, I was already too stubborn to worry much about validation, getting old (now nearing my 60s) did not help much in that regard.

Say, writing (and reading) is something I do because I love doing it and, to grossly summarize, I could not care less about people (dis)agreeing with what I write (edit: and read). I mean, I do care but only in the sense that I will listen to their remarks and objections when they they have some, while I don't care about their feelings and emotions or whether they like what I write (and read), or not. Compared to, say, filling my tax form, which is another form of writing for which I do care a lot about how it will be read and received... but is also not something I write out of passion :p

Semantic sidestep: Is gratification a necessary consequence of doing something for the love of it?

Because if so, there's validation of a sort from within.

And if not, that's an interesting thing to ponder.

Jacking off.

Everything I post about that is video game-related. I do post sometimes but I don't think I really did it for validation (not that many people look at it anyways)

Take my dog for lengthy walks, cook fabulous meals, create hilarious performance art, drink heavily