Ask Lemmy

No. I encounter people I would consider "hostile" far less frequently compared to another site that I used to frequent.

I really like it here because people here are like that. It's way better than the rest of the socual medias where anti-intelectualism won.

Eh, not really. Sometimes, sure, but to be honest it doesn't feel significantly different from reddit in that regard. There's always going to be some pedantic assholes on the Internet.

It seems to depend on the instances & communities you interact with and often the time of day as well. There's no Lemmy monolith so while certain general trends will occur (left leaning, english speaking, technology literate, etc) consensus will always have opposition which seems to be a good thing

Initially yes, the most active communities are filled with incredibly pedantic and holier-than-thou users that are more than happy to call you a drooling idiot for not agreeing with their logical opinions.

Once you start subscribing to communities you actually enjoy and block comms that allow users to muse about how 14 year olds have a "consenting nature" (looking at you !shitposting@lemmy.world), Lemmy becomes a lot more useful and inclusive. There's a lot of communities that are more active than it seems. I suggest going to the communities page and subscribing to just those comms that interest you.

Also be the change you want to see! Start posting and commenting without worrying about what the average Lemming thinks of you. We can build the type of communities we want instead of allowing this place to become another 4Chan.

The BS level is lower in Lemmy interactions than in day to day interactions. There are a lot of tech workers, who are famously asp-y. Same for a lot of net nerds really. People are less filtered as well because moderation is more about pushing out hateful people rather than creating an environment marketers like.

Yes, quite a bit actually.

Considering i mostly look at the meme communities on blahaj, no lol. But it also makes sense to me if youre looking at serious posts about the awful reality of our worlds current state, that the comments are going to be more serious.

No! Fuck off and leave us alone!

(Joking, it was a joke)

No, you are not alone. There are very hostile communities and users here, who go out of there way to inject their hate agenda into everything and at everyone, yes. Lots of deeply unhappy people are only here to spread their misery and whine about their lives and daydream about some utopia... rather than actually take responsibility for their own happiness.

And they find each other and reinforce their toxic views, then go out into more general communities and spread their hate as if it's gospel. Who will harass you if you dare to suggest there might be a better way to live life.

Block them.

Not really, it feels fine to me. A lot of thoughtful comments to be found too.

I wish there was more sarcasm, too much of the serious posting isn't actually a joke!

For me, that was much more of an issue on reddit.

I think this is a cool place. There are a lot of empathetic caring people that are plugged into what's going on in the world.

The downside of that is the world is a mess, to put it lightly, right now, so we're all kind of commiserating, and it is pretty serious business at the moment.

I personally haven't seen a ton of one-upping. I'm usually just happy to get a few up votes or a reply

Nope I get the opposite. Maybe depends on specific instances you are following? In honesty I never replied on Reddit but here I found it pretty pleasurable!

basically it's what i've been looking for. a place to horny-post but also discuss serious issues with actual understanding of reality. i'm thoroughly sick of the vibes-posting that dominates r*ddit and every other mainstream platform. i'm sick of the ads, of being distracted from important issues with video games, the newest gossip, etc.

i really just want a meaningful place in the universe. if that seems "stiff" to other people, well then i guess i gotta care less about what other people think of me. i gotta be used to it by now anyways, considering i've been very autistic my entire life.

Yes. Lemmy is extremely negative. You just get bombarded with how shit the world is constantly. It's honestly a slog being here sometimes and it pushed many people away.

I gave Lemmy another go after being gone for 2 years but I'm honestly not really having a good time lol

lets not devolve to reddit for another few years, it's enjoyabe here, if you want that go to reddit

No one yells at me to read the friendly manual like the arch forums. The only yelling I see is political stuff. I don't see the console flame wars. Comments don't look like youtube of the 2010s and before. Its not 4chan. It doesn't have much of the smuggery of hacker news. I can block the chapo trap house people. Fediverse and activitypub actually works and we have some admins who seem to care about informing others of bad actors either as individuals to entire instances.

Lemmy seems good to me!

The mods here are a real problem. Getting to be just as bad as reddit. Some volunteer jackass with the smallest iota of power will ban you from every community they control for saying something that made them shit their pants. It doesn't even have to be their community. Mods here are so thin-skinned and ban happy you will be banned from their little shit mountains for voicing an opinion somewhere they have no influence.

I have had to manually add a lot of ai communities to my block list because some limp-wrist banned me from all of them before I could block all of them. Thats another problem. Being banned from a community shouldn't make the "Block Community" button go away. It should make the button more prominent and easier to push.

no

I have noticed that occasionally the nitpicking collides with poor reading comprehension to create some of the most annoying yet hilarious comments ever.

So like the reply ITT would be something like uh yeah op sounds like a you problem, that's completely fucking false about lemmy. People take things way too seriously here, and everybody is way too nitpicky and judgemental.

I see this too. A lot of strong and inflated opinions. Reddit has this too, but there are more people, so things are usually balanced there. Here the community is smaller and inadequate behavior stands out much more. I can't say that it's all bad - I wouldn't be here if it was.