Having habits that you have honed to benefit you and having enough experience to develop forethought.
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- Being less dependent on pleasing other people allowed me to rest better.
- I can survive on less money because I have paid off student debt and have good benefits
- Getting to know my partner more. Every day we are getting better at being partners.
- A lot less FOMO. I know I will not enjoy going to a big party. I can enjoy a quiet evening without feeling regret.
- My overall life experiences make it easier for me to pick up (some) new skills. I can see how what I learned about geometry helps me be a better potter.
- I feel more comfortable letting things go because I have experience that it won't matter to me in a day or week. Do that a 1000+ times and it will stick ๐
To a very limited degree, you get a little more 'respect', but it's often fake and fragile. Otherwise, nothing... body starts degrading and it's all down-hill.
The respect thing confused me so much. Then realizing the wrong response is to list all the ways you are not worthy of the respect or confidence that is placed in you.
"What other people think of me is none of my business" goes both ways lol
The biggest thing I've noticed is people now angrily demand that I give them my money or I'm a selfish asshole or I'm cheap.
Nobody was telling me that at 30. It's so weird to have people just demand you give them money.
Like sometimes I just want a salad lady, I'm not going to order the lobster just so your tip is fatter. I don't even enjoy lobster or steak or other super pricey plates.
If you make good choices in life getting older = life gets better.
If you don't, you will not like aging.
I regularly meet folks who are in their 30s, 10 years younger than me, who are already freaking out about aging. But they have not made good choices and are freaking out at the consequences of the stupid crap they did when they were younger coming home to roost, and the fact they are 35 and still living like college kids.
I don't think I have made particularly bad choices, but I am also freaking out about getting older at age 35. It's just a sign of the times.
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In a very pragmatic way: Not having to care about society ending events as much as younger generations. Even if shit hits the fan tomorrow, I had 40+ years of a, historically speaking, luxurious life.
only 40 years until retirement (/s)
You stop giving a shit about famous people.
You've got a lot of good stories to tell.
Main cool stuffs,
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Not giving a fuck anymore about what the other think
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If lucky, the age/paygrade to choose what you do at your work
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Less pressure on dating, you may be single/divorcee/married, you usually made the peace with it and even if you may think about something else it's not the roaring 30's and the wild 20's
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Experience means you start to have do a lot of stuff, including all the mistake kids do
As others have said, caring less about what others think of me.
This means, even though I've only been in my current role at work for under 2 months, I'm already one of the most vocal and outgoing to the point that my line manager already didn't know how long I'd been there as it felt like ages and I was already part of the furniture.
Also financial security, house(s), pension/superannuation, kids etc.
Need to get back to the gym a bit more though - have a home gym so no real excuse other than being a bit more tired as metabolism has slowed but it ramps up quickly enough within a few weeks of being back at it and that helps with all general life tasks. So you feel more awake and stronger and being in your 40s, you really notice the difference, unlike in your 20s.
Youโve had a lot of time to hopefully figure a lot of things out or make progress towards some goals (little or big). Time is a big differentiator.
I'm gleefully waiting for the time at work I can just flat out refuse to do something critical because it didn't follow SOP or something. Fucking fire me, I dare you. But my name will not being going on that mess and I'll encourage others to stay away until management unfucks themselves.
The power of the phrase "If you want me to do that, put it in writing via an email and CC management to get confirmation" only grows stronger with age
Frame of reference gets bigger.
Not dying at 39. This is weird lol. Aging isn't optional.
More perspective and more money.
The biggest advantage I can think of is that you are not dead yet.
Nah... That's a con, not a pro.
So you think it's better to be dead than older? Interesting perspective there.
Have you seen the world? Shit sucks. I don't wanna be here anymore.
Well, I guess that's something you need to work on.
Mods, this guy just told me to kill myself! /s
If you want to take it that way I can't change how you feel. I really was talking about the fact that maybe you need to work on finding reasons to want to stick around.