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You pretty much answered this for me.

Absolute favourite:

Kiki's Delivery Service. Character and story that I relate with most of our of all of the movies. I wish I'd watched it when I was a kid.

Other favourites:

• Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind
• Pom Poko
• Whisper of the Heart
• Howl's Moving Castle
• The Tale of Princess Kaguya
• When Marnie Was There

Almost favourites:

• Princess Mononoke (I don't like Ashitaka that much by the end)
• Spirited Away (only because this is the only Ghibli that I ever came across in the wild before watching all of them, I'm over exposed to it)
• Earwig and the Witch (love the concept and general story, not a fan of the animation style and a lot of specifics)

Yeah this is the answer that I came here to see. These definitely belong in this list. Cow & Chicken could be particularly unhinged.

I rewatch a lot of things that I enjoy but in recent years, shows that I've seen multiple times the most for various reasons like watching again with someone else are: iZombie, Doom Patrol and Fringe.

There's also 'neptunic', which sounds like what you're describing, plus attraction to androgyny.