Or kinda like what Valve does, where they wait, collect internal lists, do research, then do big ban waves.
Or like what they do to scam call centers where they let them continue being shitty for a while, while simultaneously conducting deep investigations, after which they arrest the fuck out of everybody involved.
See? I told you this shit was gonna leak and start becoming your problem, too.
I think the only way is to be less popular and to keep moving. People that run bots are like bullies, and are either crazed zealots that eventually will run out of motivation, or already have limited motivation and you have to make it harder for them until they stop caring. In which case, they basically just become an actual user.
Now the trick is how to string along your users in the same way that doesn't turn them away.
Offer something juicy to people who care, but foul to those who don't.
Or just have better human moderation, like what Ada said. Treat your instance like a community and a team, watch over them and get rid of the bots, and then block instances that do a bad job at that. Isn't that basically the fediverse way, already? Because there will always be spam and bad actors and dissent. Only through the strengths of humanity can we beat the bots.
Combine these two arms, and they would be pretty solid. I leave the more rock hard, third arm solution to somebody much smarter than me, but welcome it gratefully and happily if and when it comes.
Firefox and https://piro.sakura.ne.jp/xul/_treestyletab.html.en That's the creators page, but it's also on the Mozilla site.
I use a bunch of other stuff too, that synergizes and whatnot, but that's the tree style tabs that I've been using since like 2011. I've also been telling people that this is the future the entire time, and nobody ever believes me. But that's fine, it's going to be an inevitable option. But maybe at this rate, the internet will die before people adopt tree tabs hahaha.
If you do use that extension, I suggest going through the options, as it's pretty well fleshed out. An option that makes a big difference to me is the the theme or whatever, to clearly see the boxes around each tab, and therefore the indentation. Another meaningful option is the tree behavior that auto-collapses the tree is you open a new one - I don't like that, and prefer the trees stay option and me in control. But to each their own. After all, this is all just tools for you to optimize and explore.
I regularly sit at anywhere from a thousand to several thousand tabs on my desktop browser. I have a tab-counter extension.
I use tree-style tabs. I use this to organize thoughts into groups, or families, hierarchically, with varying levels and numbers of tabs, depending on topic and my interest.
Most tabs are unloaded. I do close and reopen my browser regularly, and restart my pc. I just have the browser remember the tabs in it.
I do occasionally revisit and complete families of tabs. Sometimes I'll queue up loads of things to read on a subject, so that nothing ever has to load or reload.
Tabs are like a working space to me, kind of like working memory in your brain.
Sometimes I'll load in several searches at once.
I have ADHD.
I am also a very passionate and try to be a very thorough person.
I generally do things top-down when researching, but also casually search.
I have waves of purging, myself, but also will randomly close tabs or trees if they are complete or exhausted.
Like once a year or so, the browser has a stroke and decides to flush everything away and I'm sad for a couple weeks.
I have lost amazing things and nearly exhaustive subjects, that alone have been hundreds of tabs.
An example of which was a (near) 100% collection of a web archive that had a complete list and archive of a lost website and organization that personally means a lot to me. I had separated its history into eras, and had found and organized nearly all of a thing that had ever been made by the organization. It's extremely nitpicky and claims almost no storage in my mind or pc. Think of it like data hoarding or zombifying something I deem important and culturally significant. Nearly impossible to do automatedly, and I wouldn't want nor trust a bot to do it, so I did it myself, by hand, in line with a hobby.
Couples counseling.
Do a few months of it together.
Exactly. Just try to be better when you can.
We are all guilty of this. Especially if you don't think so, you are.
"How do I deal with friends or family members that are autistic?"
Well, one way is to try to actually understand them and where they're coming from and what they're really saying. Actually have the conversation and engage.
If you haven't actually tried to do that, then this is 100% on you.
If you HAVE tried to, and actually cannot have a conversation, you still have choices. You could hold a side conversation with somebody else. You could leave the space. You could try to out-compete them in talking over you, if that's the case, and hold your ground. You could also just stand up, and give them a hug and tell them it's gonna be okay, as a lot of people just come from a place of fear.
However, something about your wording and perspective leads me to believe you are not the type of person who can rise to an occasion and converse with difficult subjects with upset people, or have the emotional fortitude to deal with a neurodivergent person. Have you thought about maybe just not inviting them, or just avoiding them, altogether? Because being passive aggressive like you seem isn't the way. Even if, in your gatherings, it is acceptable or common, I encourage you to not sink to that level of toxic manipulation, if you can really help it.
Depending on the subject of your subject, you may steer the conversation into a more entertaining perspective or topic that's good for both of you.
In the worst case, though, you can always go outside for a quick run or walk and refresh your mind.
Edit: if it is just straight up abuse, which your description does not lead me to believe, but other comments presume, I do encourage you to treat it as the conflict that it is, appropriately.
Hey so a rule my partner and I have when trying to decide what to eat is that if you veto a suggestion, you have to come up with the next suggestion
I once worked with a guy who let me know that he was manic schizophrenic. Let's call him Bob (his name was not Bob).
He told me that he has a power out of his control where he can time travel to anywhere in his timeline to his own body, past or future. He would then inform and warn people of whatever, and would announce himself by saying "future Bob is here".
He seemed like a nice guy, but I didn't really know what to say to that. I never got to experience an episode of his, and he didn't last very long at the job. I wonder what that guy is doing now...