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“Top-down mandates to use large language models are crazy,” one employee told Wired. “If the tool were good, we’d all just use it.”

Yep.

Management is often out of touch and full of shit

Sounds like a good start

Why aren't the pro-brexit people being shamed? Stripped of their wealth and made to spend the rest of their miserable lives doing community service?

It's really hard to get people to suffer mild inconvenience when they don't emotionally connect with the benefits.

Most of facebook's evils are remote and impersonal. Seeing your cousin's baby photos is real and at hand.

I’m just going to move on

That's my point. They're doing a self-sabotage. Some of them will then complain that they're not getting good matches and messages, but a big factor is they're not giving potential good matches anything to work with.

So many people see the prompt "what I'm looking for" and write "my keys".

A. That's not a terribly funny joke. It's fine, but not great.

B. It's not original.

C. You are wasting valuable space. Now the other person has a little less information to make a good opening message. Do you really want that many people messaging you about your keys? Really? Why are you setting yourself up for unhappy outcomes?

Most people don't think very hard about this, and hope it'll just work out.

Meetup.com ? They're still around.

One problem is users are selfish idiots. They won't go somewhere that doesn't already have a lot of users. They don't care that going there now moves it closer to having a lot of users, so in a few months it'll be good and vibrant. Most people can't even think an hour ahead.

Another problem is that there are many scammers and bad actors. You need to deal with them, and convince your real users that the scammers are dealt with.

Lastly, in this capitalist hellscape everything is expensive. How are you going to run a big service that's got low latency and high quality?

Yeah, it can be hard, but many things worth doing are hard. If you start with the bare minimum, the other person's first impression of you is that you half-assed it. Would you be extra interested in someone who's too half assed to even read your profile?

Put in the hard work. If you don't have the energy, don't use the apps. Half-assing it is just going to make you unhappy.

Except when actually trying to make a match, it’s more advantageous to literally swipe right on everyone to maximize matches and then unmatch if you match with someone you aren’t interested in.

This isn't true if their system punishes people for swiping "yes" on everyone. While I can't be certain that's the case, it seems very plausible it is. Swipe yes on everyone, your profile is down ranked, you don't get as many good matches.

Additionally, tinder and hinge only allow you a limited number of yes swipes per day. If you blow them on the first ten profiles, you're going to have worse results than if you spend a little longer looking at profiles.

Furthermore, on hinge, you can send a message with your like. Your chances of having a conversation and date go way down without a good message.

Thinking about my friend group, about half the people met their long term partners on dating apps. The other half is a mix of work and large social groups (eg: people who all go to certain kinds of music festivals)

I guess it varies by age and region.

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2020/08/20/key-takeaways-on-americans-views-of-and-experiences-with-dating-and-relationships/

While meeting partners through personal networks is still the most common kind of introduction, about one-in-ten partnered adults (12%) say they met their partner online. About a third (32%) of adults who are married, living with a partner or are in a committed relationship say friends and family helped them find their match. Smaller shares say they met through work (18%), through school (17%), online (12%), at a bar or restaurant (8%), at a place of worship (5%) or somewhere else (8%).

Some other sources I'm seeing say it's as high as 60% of couples met online.

I think dating apps are mostly used for hookups

This isn't especially true. Maybe Feeld and Tinder are less "serious", but the idea of dating apps is mainstream enough that you find all sorts of people and goals.

The capitalism and for-profit nature does make them all kind of suck, though