Modern dating and the apps and stuff sucks for everybody (except maybe a few) in varying amounts for various intersecting reasons. The fact that our insecurities are priced into a company's business plan is no fun. It's just a truth that the default answer to the question, 'is this a good match' is 'no', and it's probably healthy to limit the influence that has on your self image in whatever way seems sustainable while also being open to serendipity. It's hard to feel good after being ghosted, but dang if it's probably better than getting any closer to that kind of person.
Modern dating and the apps and stuff sucks for everybody (except maybe a few) in varying amounts for various intersecting reasons. The fact that our insecurities are priced into a company's business plan is no fun. It's just a truth that the default answer to the question, 'is this a good match' is 'no', and it's probably healthy to limit the influence that has on your self image in whatever way seems sustainable while also being open to serendipity. It's hard to feel good after being ghosted, but dang if it's probably better than getting any closer to that kind of person.