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Europe's embattled carmakers are hoping for a reprieve when Brussels unveils an auto sector package next month, which could water down an effective ban on new combustion engines initially slated for 2035 as a shift towards electric engines stutters.

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The European Parliament on Wednesday voted in favour of delaying the implementation of the European Union's deforestation law by one year.

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The live action Dungeon Meshi is coming along great. They're planning a scene where Jack Black Senshi sees Chimera Falin, turns to the camera and says "Chicken Dragonnnn!"

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.zip/post/53812820

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/39484472

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That's not Ralsei, he wouldn't say that :'(

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US volunteers who have poured into Ukraine to help amid war are dismayed by Trump’s continuing pressures on Kyiv

Americans involved in the Ukrainian war effort are embarrassed and dismayed by Donald Trump’s continuing pressures on Kyiv and think his administration’s latest peace plan is tantamount to backstabbing and another catastrophic failure of US foreign policy.

“Complete bullshit and a betrayal by Trump,” said an American special forces veteran who has helped train and advise the Ukrainian military since the full-scale Russian invasion began in February 2022. “But are you even surprised?”

Last week, a 28-point piece-plan reportedly drafted by Steve Witkoff, a Trump envoy negotiating with Kremlin adviser, Kirill Dmitriev, was leaked to the press and then revealed to be an apparent repackaging of Vladimir Putin’s maximalist demands on Ukraine.

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Got a warning for my blog going over 100GB in bandwidth this month... which sounded incredibly unusual. My blog is text and a couple images and I haven't posted anything to it in ages... like how would that even be possible?

Turns out it's possible when you have crawlers going apeshit on your server. Am I even reading this right? 12,181 with 181 zeros at the end for 'Unknown robot'? This is actually bonkers.

Edit: As Thunraz points out below, there's a footnote that reads "Numbers after + are successful hits on 'robots.txt' files" and not scientific notation.

Edit 2: After doing more digging, the culprit is a post where I shared a few wallpapers for download. The bots have been downloading these wallpapers over and over, using 100GB of bandwidth usage in the first 12 days of November. That's when my account was suspended for exceeding bandwidth (it's an artificial limit I put on there awhile back and forgot about...) that's also why the 'last visit' for all the bots is November 12th.

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by cinnamon@lemmy.cafe to c/adhd@lemmy.world
 
 

I don't really know who to talk to right now and posting here seems a good idea.

So, like the title says, I think my marriage is over. For context: Me (F42) and my wife have been married for 9 years. We got married not even a year into our relationship and I had no idea back then that I had ADHD. Did we get married too soon? Yes and no. The problems didn't really start until around year 5, so even if we had gotten married after, say, three years, the outcome would have been the same.

Around two and a half years ago my wife suggested that I may have ADHD after things had started getting worse and worse. But although I was open to the idea it took me a year to get off my butt and get diagnosed and start treatment. Precious time that I wasted.

Now I've been on meds for a year and in therapy for around 9 months. Some things have gotten better but the core problem remains: My wife feels responsible for everything, is shouldering pretty much all the mental load and I seem to be unable to become the reliable adult partner that she needs. ADHD or the way I handle it has completely eroded our marriage and the love we had between us. My wife feels exhausted and trapped and I feel helpless because I feel like I maybe moved up a level or two in my "adulting skills" but I'd need to be a Level 10 to make our marriage work. Or make any marriage work, for that matter.

I feel extremely sad. I feel sad about the suffering I have caused my wife, who really tried to stick it out. Probably longer than she should have for her own good. Sad because I've been trying really hard and I see some people who have ADHD but who also seem to have an "overachiever personality" and they have their shit together so much more than I do. Sad because I wasted a whole year doing nothing. Sad because we used to be so happy together and used to love each other so much and now all that seems to be left is bitterness and resentment.

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Edit: Thank you so much to everyone who has has already commented and shared kind words with me.

My wife and I have been going over this many many times. I know what she needs and I am trying and a feel fucking sad about the fact that, maybe, we just can't make it work. But I also realize I'm starting to reach a point where being on my own is beginning to sound liberating. I've never had a problem with being single and I feel like at least then there isn't anyone I can disappoint anymore. It's just me and if I fuck up the only person having to face the consequences is me.

I just feel really bad because I feel I have cost my wife so much. She would have wanted to have kids and I've always been on the fence about it. I used to absolutely not want to have kids when we met, then kinda came around to the idea (when you're super in love it does become a kinda wonderful idea) but then gradually starting feeling more and more uncertain. And now I'm at a point where, regardless of whether or not I want to have kids (I don't have a desire to have them but could imagine having them) I don't think I'm capable of raising kids. If we had broken up sooner my wife might have had a better chance at having kids with someone else.

I'd be lying if I said I haven't been feeling awful myself. I feel like I'm under constant pressure because I want to "prove myself" and the more I worry about fucking up the more tense I get. The best moment of the day is when I go to bed because then I don't have to do anything for the next 8 hours, just rest and sleep. Can't mistakey if not awakey :P

And our relationship has been deteriorating for so long and we've both become so fed up with each other. My wife is fed up with me because I'm not who she needs me to be and I'm fed up with her because I feel like even if I try to manage something myself, take care of something myself, I don't do it the right way. Sometimes it really isn't (last week I almost set the oven on fire) but sometimes it's just a minor thing.

Maybe, as sad as it is, we're better off apart and would be happier on own own / with someone else.

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by BrikoX@lemmy.zip to c/technology@lemmy.zip
 
 

Tor has announced improved encryption and security for the circuit traffic by replacing the old tor1 relay encryption algorithm with a new design called Counter Galois Onion (CGO).

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.sdf.org/post/46275324

China’s aggressive trade stance against Japan appears to kill any chance it has of joining the Comprehensive and Progressive Agreement for Trans-Pacific Partnership [CPTPP] trade bloc in the near future.

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Beijing’s confrontation with Japan over a remark about Taiwan has led to a series of retaliatory blows already hurting the Japanese economy.

But China’s sharp response to new Prime Minister Sanae Takaichi’s frank admission that a Chinese attack on Taiwan might trigger a collective self-defence response could also rebound on the People’s Republic.

China has released its ‘wolf warriors’ and ramped up trade pressure on Japan dramatically, warning its citizens to stay away from Japan, while reimposing a ban on Japanese seafood.

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Japanese artists have had concerts in Beijing cancelled or postponed, [...] supposedly because of public dissatisfaction over Takaichi’s remark. Manufacturing giants such as Toyota and Sony also expect “direct blowback” from Beijing [...] Chinese airlines cancelled flights on at least a dozen routes to popular destinations such as Kyoto and Osaka last week, according to a report by the [Chinese state-controlled media outlet] South China Morning Post.

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But there are also signs that China will pay a price for its latest display of petulance.

Its acts of economic coercion are almost certain to derail – or add years – to its bid to join the Comprehensive and Progressive Agreement for Trans-Pacific Partnership (CPTPP), which Beijing applied for in 2021.

The problem for Beijing is the CPTPP requires a very different approach to the ‘trade wars’ that China has launched against trading partners, such as Australia, several years ago.

Members of the trade grouping must meet three criteria known as the ‘Auckland Principles’ – preparedness to meet the pact’s high standards, a record of compliance and adhering to trade commitments, and concensus, with all existing members agreeing to on new countries wishing to join.

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Nations must agree to non-discriminatory dialogue with other members and transparent decision-making, as noted by Australia’s ABC News, which said the latest flare-up has occurred as the 12 “CPTPP members were meeting in Melbourne to assess new membership bids.”

“On the eve of those discussions, one member state is being economically punished by the country seeking entry,” it said. “That creates a structural problem for China: CPTPP enlargement requires unanimity. And Japan holds a veto.”

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The idea of Japan permitting China to join the CPTPP now is “almost unthinkable,” the ABC report said, not only because of its coercive trade actions, but other factors, such as its behaviour in the East China Sea.

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Israeli forces stormed a theatre in occupied East Jerusalem to prevent a children’s play from taking place following orders from far-right minister Itamar Ben-Gvir.

Police forces arrived on Sunday night at the Palestinian National Theatre, forcibly removing spectators gathered for the play and causing children to cry as they were ordered home.

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So what came in the mail today?

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Taiwan will prepare itself for combat within the next two years amid "intensifying" threats from China, the nation's president has declared.

Lai Ching-te held a news conference on Wednesday morning amid a ramping up of military and political pressure by Beijing, which views the democratically-governed island as its own territory.

Speaking after announcing plans to boost defence spending with a "special" $40bn (£30.6bn) budget, Mr Lai said Xi Jinping's regime was "speeding up military preparations to take Taiwan by force".

It comes after Mr Xi used a phone call with Donald Trump to describe Taiwan's return to mainland China as "an integral part of the post-war international order".

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As Europe pursues the vision of becoming an AI continent, the AI infrastructure boom in Germany is already exposing the limits of the energy supply and physical infrastructure. And the question remains: What price will society and consumers ultimately pay?

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WASHINGTON (AP) — President Donald Trump’s chief interlocutor with the Russian government last month advised a senior aide to Vladimir Putin on how the Russian leader should go about pitching the U.S. president on a peace plan aimed at bringing an end to Russia’s war in Ukraine, according to a transcript of the call published by Bloomberg News on Tuesday.

Trump envoy Steve Witkoff, according to a transcript of the Oct. 14 call published by the news service, advised Putin’s foreign policy adviser Yuri Ushakov that Putin should call Trump to congratulate him for the Gaza peace deal, say Russia had supported it and that he respects the president as a man of peace.

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