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‘I don’t date at all now’: one woman’s journey into the darkest corners of the manosphere
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 30 Apr 2025
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I understand you’re being well-intentioned but this is such a great example of how society has failed to recognize these partners as victims as it continues to put the onus on the victim to deal with the abuser.
TL;DR: Victims of abuse are victims who need external assistance. The abuser needs to be dealt with. You are putting too much of the onus on the victims (and in some ways the blame as well though I highly doubt that’s your intention) when you say “they need to take responsibility and leave.”
The fact that you know someone who stays with someone who thinks she shouldn’t vote should tell you how seriously difficult this all is.
I don't understand your argument and you haven't addressed the issue at hand.
Please spell out for me why a woman in a relationship with a man who believes that women shouldn't have the right to vote, can't exit that relationship?
Note that the person you responded to didn't mention abuse, you introduced the term "abuse". We're talking about women in relationships with assholes, not abused women.
Have you forgotten the entire context of this thread? Did you even glance at the article? They also talked about women “not leaving piece of shit men” and a man who doesn’t want his partner to vote. Can you really not infer anything from that?
Nope.
I read every word.
That is not what they talked about. They said "men who genuinely claim that women shouldn't be allowed to vote". That is not the same thing as a man who displays controlling behaviour over their partner.
There's no need for anyone to infer anything in this discussion, it's quite clear and explicit what people are talking about.
You have a very narrow understanding of what abuse is and clearly you can’t extrapolate larger points and only take things at face value, so I’ll be direct and concise: you are defending and engaging in victim blaming as you hide behind cheap rhetorical tricks.
Later dude. This isn’t going to be productive. You’re clearly grinding an axe about some social hangup you have.
LOL bye now