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‘I don’t date at all now’: one woman’s journey into the darkest corners of the manosphere
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 30 Apr 2025
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I think part of why she didn't seen men fighting some of the shitty stuff online is due to the echochamber effect of those communities. Any resistance is downvoted, dogpiled with hateful comments, and maybe even removed by a biased mod. A lot of the good men who would defend in those comments don't even browse those specific forums because of how toxic and shitty they can be.
Right. As a guy, I've never received a nude pic of a girl from a friend. I've never had a friend tell me that he sends girls dick pics. I've never been in an online community where photos of women are traded like what is described above - I wouldn't even know where to start looking for this. I've never heard about anyone I know having their pictures shared, or anyone I know sharing pictures of someone else in an unethical way. This is quite simply a social sphere that I am completely excluded from. The idea that I have any responsibility or capacity to police this kind of behavior is ludicrous - what am I supposed to do? Talk to my friends and say "So, look at any unethical porn lately, bro?" Or spend my time seeking out toxic communities so I can debate them/report them, instead of going outside and having a life?
"I've never had a friend tell me he sends girls dick pics" Well he wouldn't, would he? They know it's toxic behavior even though they enjoy doing it and might even brag about it with equally toxic guys. This is a problem women constantly have, the men in their lives don't believe things are happening because it doesn't happen when they're there. It's a far less niche sphere than it appears to you, and I agree it's probably not going to be out in front of you for you to do something about. But you can start by assuming women mostly don't bring things up unless they're really bad, because they put themselves at risk by doing so. So if they do, they're probably not lying or imagining it. Even if your experience of that guy is completely different. And you can (continue to) shut down the more "minor" conversational shit that normalizes and perpetuates that mindset.
I don’t think their intention was to shut anything down and or about not believing women.
It seemed like the user your responding to was expressing frustration over the portion of the excerpt that implies it’s the fault of all men for not calling this out when there’s a lot of men who don’t ever encounter this directly to call it out like that.