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Fine. I fucked up and married an asexual woman because she was the first person to ever show me genuine affection and I royally fucked up.
Sucks to be me! No kids, at least.
I also don’t have sex with this guy’s wife
I’m asexual and I deserve love too! I married another asexual lady and it’s great. Neither of us have to do things we don’t want to.
Not even taxes?
Don't kink shame
If it helps I didn't marry an asexual woman and I still get none.
Sucks to be me, plus a kid!
Are you selling?
Easy there, Epstein
Wait, how do you know she's not asexual?
Well... You are not alone in this.
What is wrong with genuine affection? The least of us are that lucky. Sex you can have with everyone and get it everywhere. You can even buy it, if you want. But love and affection is a rare commodity you can't enforce or buy or....
Depends if she let's him get it elsewhere? You are stuck in a dilemma of being involuntary celibate for life, in return for love.
So oof.
Would be pretty mean if she didn't. But yes...tough choice. The younger he is, the harder.
oops lol
False
Where can you not?
The vast majority of people do not want to have sex with the vast majority of other people and most places prohibit fucking in them.
OK, u just took it verbatim. You are able to fuck anyone anywhere. They might not mirror that desire to do so and the place might not be made for it. But you COULD.
I think you and I live very, very different lives that you would think that way.
Why? The pure technical ability to do so is there. Doesn't mean you should or would. Besides that wasn't even remotely my initial point.
You missed out could. That's why we are not the same.
OK, if you are technically unable to do the act. Which now is lightyears away from my point 😁
You're deliberately misinterpreting me and insulting me at the same time. There's no need for that.
You said
And that's simply not true for most of us.
You characterised love and affection as hard to find, but I get love of various sorts readily from my wife, children and other family, and a great deal of affection from friends and some colleagues. You characterised sex as easy to find, stating I could get it anywhere and any time with anyone, and you argued with people who disagree, but the truth is that I can get sex only in my bedroom, only with my wife, only at night, and only when she is in the mood for it, and anything else is pure fiction, for me. Maybe not for you, but definitely for me.
That fact that you even think to assert that love and affection are hard to find and sex is easy to find is why we live very, very, very different lives. I'm not asking to swap, but we are NOT the same.
Maybe you mean something different than you're saying, but of you want to get your point across to us ordinary folk for whom a sex life as busy as our libido was a teenage fantasy that never turned up, you'd better start rephrasing and explaining rather than just claiming "technical" truth.
It's also "technically" true that you can get affection anywhere. Yesterday I gave a homeless guy a lift from his begging pitch outside the bus station to his tent and bought him and his girlfriend a pizza hut on the way, and he cried and hugged me. Today I met up with a bunch of friends and got about four hugs, which is totally normal for that bunch. Most people wouldn't call it love, but it's heaps of affection.
We live very different lives for you to claim what you claim.
I'm also troubled that you only said that you can't enforce love and affection. Enforcing sex is called rape. I'm guessing that you didn't mean that, but do you not see that you need to back down from some of the words and phrases that you used instead of defending them, and explain what you meant in a less provocative way?
I guess you deliberately want to misunderstand me. And I don't even get why.
Love is something rare, where two souls need find each other.
Sex, I could go to the next brothel and have it 10 times a day. Or go on tinder and let golddiggers have it. If you're a decently attractive woman, you'll get it for free on tinder in 5 minutes. Or in the next bar or wherever. I can also walk around asking anyone until I'm lucky.
So that's a simple COULD. Love you cannot simply get.
Maybe my point was badly phrased, I dunno. But insulting you surely wasn't my goal.
Brothels are illegal in my country.
The vast majority of people are absolutely nowhere near rich enough to attract golddiggers.
I don't know what proportion of women you believe are decently attractive, but surely you accept it isn't 100%. Also roughly 49% of us are male, and this absolutely and unequivocally is not the experience of even decently attractive men.
This would get me slapped and possibly arrested for sexual harassment. It would definitely, definitely, definitely not work. You have to either be an unusually attractive man or alternatively be seeking sex from men for this to have any chance whatsoever of success.
I keep telling you that your experience is far from typical, and I keep telling you that we live completely different lives. You are confident that you could easily get sex if you wanted it, whenever or wherever you wanted it. I promise you 100% that I am right that your experience is NOT universal. You live in a magical world of sex availability. By contrast I live in a blessed world of readily available affection from my friends (who I chose), surrounded by family that love me, but where sex is available with frequency lower than my preference and with zero realistic chance of me getting it elsewhere.
WE ARE NOT THE SAME. Accept it please, and stop telling me I'm wrong about what my own lived experience is like. You are WRONG.
I don't want to deliberately misunderstand you, I want you to hear me. Your experience of readily available sex whenever, wherever, whoever, is far from universal.
Think about it tho
Why? What's wrong with that? A normal job and a normal transaction. Married though, I dont do this 😁
Your username is amazing btw
Do asexual people not even want to try it, out of curiosity?
I don’t want to try it. Don’t even want to hear about it. Don’t even have functioning genitals on account of being intersex. I thought I was horny once, but that was just when Rush Limbaugh died.
Some people tell me, “well, you haven’t had the right dick or pussy yet!” And I always reply, “and you haven’t had the right arsenic yet, keep trying different kinds.”
Turns out that the wizard powers for being a forty year old virgin only apply if one ever had the option or desire to lose the virginity in the first place.
"I thought I was horny once, but that was just when Rush Limbaugh died."
Immortal words, my friend. I commend their beauty.
ooh, ooh! Ace here. I went through a period where sex was my special interest. I went deep down the research rabbit hole, learned all about sex toys and methods and safer sex techniques. Had willing partners.
At the end of the day, sex is boring and no one is hot/of an attracting gender. I guess it's like if you were a super straight man and everyone else was men? I don't know.
Now I'm into knitting and kumihimo.
It depends on the person. Some asexual people can be quite sexually active because they don't mind or enjoy helping with their partner's sexual needs even though they're not directly interested.
How many times can you do that?
Yeah sure, few times to find out what the fuzz is about and then move on. Do you have any idea how many times people have sex in a relationship, a lot more than just a few times.
Just for clarification, I'm not ace or at least haven't accepted it and just have difficulties with libido and remembering that I'm supposed to have sex.
Ace people can actually still have a strong libido! It's more about sexual attraction.
Of course, others are straight up repulsed by even the thought of sex. It's a wide spectrum.
Yeah, they're the lucky ones of the cursed spectrum. At least that can be taken advantage of even if there's no direct target for it.
Dont worry, as parents you wouldn't (want) to see action either. You get up, handle your offspring, go to work, gethome to just handle the offspring again. Depending if they had mid-day sleep you may be allowed to do chores starting 19-23pm. Actually working is more relaxing than being 100% of the time on adrenaline because your toddler tries to hurt themselves all the time. You just lack energy for romance. Trying for a second is a chore.
Any upsides?