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Could be a combo of your weight loss catching somebody's fancy, but also you yourself may be exuding more happiness which they return with smiles.
No. People really treat you very different if you look good compared to looking bad or average. You have many millions of people who have this experience.
Many good looking people have a self obsessed personality but it doesn't matter for how strangers are attracted to them.
Thats my First part...catching somebodys fancy...they are nice to you because they find you pleasant to look at. Happens to my wife all the time. No makeup and comfortable clothes people are aloof, makeup and nice clothes they are chatty and holding doors for her, etc
Yep. It's just how it is. Nothing we can do, it's just built into our dna.
A lot of women find it a relief when their looks fade, since they never enjoyed that attention from strange men. Other women feel sad and invisible.
I think most guys have never gotten that kind of attention so we don't know what we never had.
Yeah, in my wife's young days she used it to her advantage. Cop giving you a parking ticket, just act cute and you park where you like.
Now it makes her angry that people treat her nicely when she has put makeup on and styled her hair.
Haha yeah. :)
Life is interesting...
But they tend to smile more, and people return that.
Not of you dont look good. Then people think it's creepy, specially women.
I have the most off-putting personality imaginable and I still get a ton of attention from women because I'm tall. It just won't keep peoples attention more than a good personality will.
People can't be shallow! Mistreatment by others is because you're not being happy enough for them!