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Almost 50, I could not imagine exerting the effort it took to get my now teenage sons parented properly.
It takes so much time, energy and patience and you dont really get more of those as you age.
Then the kid has to explain their old dad to friends and tell everyone that he is not the grampa.
Old dad also won't necessarily have a lot in common with other parents that are 20 years younger, so those interactions will be very odd.
Old dad ain't gonna be able to keep up at the amusement park or zoo. He isn't going to want to sleep in a tent because his back hurts and he has to piss four times a night. Even if he can, it won't be pleasant.
I am watching my in laws do this, they started at 40. It does not look fun and neither of them will play with the kids much. Little kids need active play, they need to be chased, wrestled with, tickled and tossed in the air. My in laws just keep telling their hyper daughter to just chill out all the time. It doesn't work and she is perpetually frustrated.
Tl,dr y'all too old.