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to all the elders one , i want t ask what experiences one should not miss out . it could be anything u want to share like travel or something else . how to enjoy your 20 s ?

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[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 3 points 59 minutes ago

Labor. I don't mean this in a right-wing way, or an ableist way, I mean that those who can, need to. Capitalists and landlords work to remove themselves from the fundamental productive process, because ownership creates no value. Labor should not be a punishment, nor something enslaving us, but should instead be something we do because it benefits the good of all, and the systems of private ownership directly plunder the social product and alienate us from the products of our social labor.

[–] bstix@feddit.dk 3 points 1 hour ago

If you ever have the chance to go snowboarding in fresh powder snow on a sunny winter day, you should. I know, it's expensive, unnecessary, wasteful, difficult to arrange and perhaps even dangerous. It's still worth it if you can.

[–] cerebralhawks@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Working in customer service. Everyone should work either at retail, and/or in a restaurant as wait staff. Male or female. You will get treated like crap. The idea is that you won't later do the same to other retail/service workers.

At the very least, you should, if you ever intend to frequent such establishments, anyway.

[–] lntl@lemmy.ml -2 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

OP: what's an invaluable experience in life?

Lemmy: Work!

[–] clubb@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 28 minutes ago

I do actually believe work is incredibly important. There are a few who have not worked a day in their life. If you have met them, you know just how insufferable they are. Work is invaluable. Especially unpaid volunteering.

[–] TheKracken@lemmy.world 5 points 1 hour ago

Work is a fact of life for most people. The lesson here is not to work but to gain empathy.

[–] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 3 points 1 hour ago

Make friends, explore hobbies, be eager to learn

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Learn a different language not in your native languages language family

[–] farmgineer@nord.pub 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Bonus points if it's culturally dissimilar and you live there for at least 3 months.

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Living somewhere isnt a "need to be done" bc not everyone has the money for that. But languages you can learn for free. Libraries at the very least if you dont even have a computer

[–] farmgineer@nord.pub 3 points 2 hours ago

Of course. Hence the "bonus points" phrasing.

[–] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 11 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

Read a book that is >100 years old.

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

When they use words and terms you need to look up and sentence structure both of which havent been used in over 8 decades

[–] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Yes, you need to look up "decades" 😉

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 hours ago

No i just did a typo... Thinking about 80 years while wanting to write 8 decades

[–] luthis@lemmy.nz 3 points 3 hours ago

This one is a fucking excellent read

https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/45396

[–] sirico@feddit.uk 4 points 3 hours ago

Retail work

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 9 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Two months ago you typed like this: https://thelemmy.club/post/54902713

We all know you’re literate.

First, sober up and get control of yourself.

Then, do whatever you want. 20s are still young.

[–] maegul@lemmy.ml 0 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (2 children)

Is this about the capitalisation?

If so yes. Evolution of language is a thing. Older people just have to accept it at some point. But this just seems like a needle regression for the sake of doing something different. Does it come from some smart phone behaviour or something?

[–] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 4 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

The dude in managing to slur their speech in text and somehow all you can see is capitalism; typical ML user /s

[–] maegul@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 hours ago

lol.

Curiously, I’m an ml user from before the “migration”. Back then there weren’t nearly as many options.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 5 points 3 hours ago

I think he's just drunk.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

A deep interpersonal relationship, one that finally shifts the focus from one's self-centeredness and hedonistic desires to caring about someone else, to prioritising the other. As sad as it is to say (because not everyone gets to it), I don't think you can be a proper mature adult without it, you'll just be a selfish, shallow child with no patience for the other. So, taking care of a gf/wife and taking care of your children obviously belong to this category, as well as being a devoted caregiver in general.

[–] luthis@lemmy.nz 2 points 3 hours ago

The downvoters are all lonely memes. This is the best recommendation. Get some responsibility.

[–] zxqwas@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

If you don't like travelling don't travel. I guess knowing requires to have travelled.

Just try new stuff you're curious about.