Ask Lemmy

First, you can't make people respect you.

And why do you care if someone who's a jerk respects you?

Shaming works great.

Don't know why/how being a snitch (or not) is related to respect.

You left out an option.

People start talking shit about you/mocking you -> you call them out publicly, stand up for yourself, not with aggression but with assertiveness. “Dude, what the fuck is your problem? I’m not doing a damn thing and here you are disrespecting me for no reason. You that insecure? You gotta drag people down? How about you grow the fuck up. You wish you were more like me.”

Problem with this, is that it takes a certain level of self confidence that doesn’t come easy for a lot of people. And you have to be ready for pushback, which is okay, because now if you have to get aggressive, it’s because someone else got aggressive first.

Also, an ounce of prevention: Live your life in such a way that you’re true to yourself, exudes confidence, and doesn’t invite derision. Be proactively kind. Make friends and allies.

If you have to work at that, then do so.

you're stressed tf out. and also very likely autistic. if there are any ways you can, try to reduce the stress. i have no idea what stage of life you're actually in though.

also, please proofread your posts. don't expect random people to read something you put very little consideration into.

Throw bricks

But to be a little serious, that's a tough question. I think if it was me I'd be avoidant, but that only works until they figure that out.

If that's you in the picture, you do give off "dweeb" energy, at least by that picture(I'm not trying to be mean) and breaking out of that may help you. First step is to stop comparing your looks to anime characters imo.

There is Ender's strategy, which consists in reacting so disproportionately that nobody will dare pick on you again.

There is also the madman theory, which consists in convincing your foes that you're crazy and unpredictable, and better left alone.

I would not recommend either of them.

I'm not sure how you can deal with your problems, because I remember being picked on when I was your age and I never figured it out myself either, until I grew old enough that it simply stopped naturally.

But there's one thing I know: don't be a snitch unless there's a very good reason (i.e. something illegal, physical assault or anything that truly goes beyond the pale). Snitches get stitches is real, and also you don't want to be that person who tells on others, for your own self-respect.

"When walking in open territory, bother no one. If someone bothers you, ask them to stop. If they do not stop, destroy them."

— from "The Eleven Satanic Rules of the Earth" in Anton LaVey’s Church of Satan

Best way I found to deal with it was not engaging, only if things got out of hand.

If everywhere you go smells like dog shit you should probably check your shoes

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