ADHD

It sounds more like you're not listening to what your doctor is actually saying and just hearing what you want to...

He won't diagnose you with ADHD, because he does not believe you meet the diagnosis criteria.

just like the results of ADHD tests

Do you mean online quizs? Those are a waste of the 15 minutes they take.

If you took a bunch of online quiz's that say ADHD, and you keep badgering for a diagnosis, a common conversation would be: "you have some traits of this condition, but not the condition".

You however are talking like it's a trait you picked in a rpg character creation screen.

Is this normal?

Yes, what you described is called "day dreaming" in America.

But if you disagree with your doctor, you get a second opnion from another doctor, not give a one sided description online and hope people reinforce your beliefs instead of assuming the medical professional knows more than you said in three paragraphs...

As someone with ADHD, there is a line where a 'trait' becomes detrimental. If it's keeping you from doing your best, or from holding down a good job, it's not a trait you should just live with. That's the line where a trait becomes a symptom of illness, that should be treated.

He sounds like he literally doesn't have the ability to give you the treatment you need. At that point he should refer you to someone that can, not just make excuses.

You need real treatment, which will require medication. You can't just therapy your way out of a disability, which is what ADHD is classified as

If he is saying ADHD is your trait, then you absolutely should learn to live with it because it's not going away. Medication is one way of helping yourself live with it, but ADHD itself can't really be treated the way depression can. It's how your brain is hardwired. I recommend surrounding yourself with people who are similar to you or at least educated about it.

i "just dealt with it" for 3 decades, but finally getting medication has been a huge help. your therapist can't prescribe medication, a psychiatrist has to do that. see if you can get a referral.

Teaching self-acceptance is generally fine, but I feel like in this case, this is a cop-out and the person isn't able to provide the help and support you require.

I've run into this issue myself with my adult autism diagnosis - providers refused to provide a diagnosis or provide me a pathway to receive an evaluation from somebody qualified to do so. Even when I needed accommodations for college, they just sat silent, refused to address my concerns, and quickly changed subjects.

Turns out I do have autism, and they were just barriers to me accessing diagnosis and all the benefits that come with it. I likely have ADHD as well, but none of these providers gave a shit. They just focused on my anxiety and tried to reason me out of my state, focused on having me changing my behaviors and reactions (mask even harder), gaslit me into accepting that I'm causing people to traumatize me and letting myself be traumatized, and so forth. I was already high-masking, but I desperately needed supports and they had nothing to offer. They acted as if my high-masking appearance was my baseline and the anxiety was the inhibitor - which cause me an immense amount of harm. They also refused to address my significant trauma history and PTSD.

Find someone else who is qualified in ADHD and don't get fucked around like I did.

Is he a psychiatrist who can prescribe meds, or just a therapist?

No it is not ok, if that is the justification the therapist is giving to not to provide you with the medicine you need.