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To this day, she remembers the racing thoughts, the instant nausea, the hairs prickling up on her legs, the sweaty palms. She had shared a photograph of herself in her underwear with a boy she trusted and, very soon, it had been sent around the school and across her small home town, Aberystwyth, Wales. She became a local celebrity for all the wrong reasons. Younger kids would approach her laughing and ask for a hug. Members of the men’s football team saw it – and one showed someone who knew Davies’s nan, so that’s how her family found out.

Her book, No One Wants to See Your D*ck, takes a deep dive into the negatives. It covers Davies’s experiences in the digital world – that includes cyberflashing such as all those unsolicited dick pics – as well as the widespread use of her images on pornography sites, escort services, dating apps, sex chats (“Ready for Rape? Role play now!” with her picture alongside it). However, the book also shines a light on the dark online men’s spaces, what they’re saying, the “games” they’re playing. “I wanted to show the reality of what men are doing,” says Davies. “People will say: ‘It’s not all men’ and no, it isn’t, but it also isn’t a small number of weirdos on the dark web in their mum’s basements. These are forums with millions of members on mainstream sites such as Reddit, Discord and 4chan. These are men writing about their wives, their mums, their mate’s daughter, exchanging images, sharing women’s names, socials and contact details, and no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.”

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[–] Whateley@lemm.ee 1 points 12 minutes ago

This is what happens when you let your son's role models be sociopathic pieces of shit like the Tate brothers, Fresh and Fit, and the assorted fucking losers on Youtube who still use "SJW" like it's 2015.

[–] HexesofVexes@lemmy.world 3 points 50 minutes ago

Misogyny and misandry, two unhappy twins; one celebrated, the other shunned. Both found their way into this thread.

That's enough internet for today I think.

[–] thatradomguy@lemmy.world 2 points 54 minutes ago

I just like that she calls out and lumps in 4chan with Reddit and Discord—because that's really what's it's become now. I mean there are dicks lurking and active in any corner of the Internet but those platforms in particular are obviously mainstream enough or known to harbor all kinds.... especially the kind she talks about.

[–] PoPoP@lemm.ee 5 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.

being surprised by this makes no sense, it's like expecting people at a Hitler convention to call each other out for liking Hitler

edit: if you expect anything but the worst from users of reddit, discord, and 4chan, you're insane.

[–] the_q@lemm.ee 17 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

There are some pretty awful takes in these replies. It seems a fair number of men here at least vacation near the "manosphere".

[–] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 8 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

Yeah right now Lemmy is a niche appeal social media site with a minor technical barrier to entry, so it's basically the ideal environment for toxic users to spawn. World is getting better as more regular-human users are driven off reddit, and there's obviously blahaj and similar instances, but yeah it's pretty rough here. Lots of "Anyone who'd choose the bear over me is just an idiot, I'd never completely miss the point like a bear would" types.

[–] Alaknar@lemm.ee 21 points 7 hours ago

the hairs prickling up on her legs

Some incel somewhere: "WTF IS THIS WOKE BULLSHIT!?!?!?!"

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 22 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Pro tip - I'll absolutely snitch on the guys I know that you probably shouldn't date. Maybe you have a male friend that's the same.

[–] SLVRDRGN@lemmy.world 4 points 4 hours ago

This just reminded me of the wonderful responses from these guys.

[–] damdy@lemm.ee 22 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I feel like I'm in a different universe to most people. Only chance I get to call anyone out for anything is littering and playing music loudly in public. Honestly feels like confirmation bias, but I'm sure I'm wrong.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 15 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

I mean, if you went to 4chan you could presumably call out more, but it'd be kind of like yelling into a hurricane. Toxicity is self-concentrating in really anonymous online spaces.

IRL bigots tend to hide their shit from non-target non-bigots.

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 5 points 3 hours ago

Toxicity is self-concentrating in really anonymous online spaces.

The cause of and consequences of The Man-o-Sphere in a nutshell. People get drawn in by the promise of gamified easy answers to relationships (via PUA community, evangelist trad-life influencers, and other self-help gurus). But it's a bait-and-switch, with "advice" drifting from "how to find an easy relationship" into "why women are awful and you should hate them."

[–] Etterra@discuss.online 18 points 8 hours ago (3 children)

It's insane to me that the greatest threat to women is dating men. Who the hell is raising these guys? Even in my worst days I never blamed women for my dating problems - I blamed myself. Therapy helped with that problem though. But the motives of mass misogyny are just opaque to me. Sort your shit guys, don't be a bastard.

[–] dellish@lemmy.world 6 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

It's insane to me that the greatest threat to women is dating men

Yet men are the leading cause of death for women. You're correct, it is absolutely insane, but until those types of men can sort out their fragile masculinity problems here we are unfortunately.

[–] AceTKen@lemmy.ca 3 points 25 minutes ago* (last edited 21 minutes ago)

What? That's not correct at all. The leading cause of death for women is heart disease, which accounts for approximately one in three female deaths each year. "Men" or any derivatives thereof on most statistical lists are below even common mosquitoes (malaria) as causes of death. A woman is more likely to be killed by their own kidneys than a man.

Don't spread needless culture war scare bullshit.

Source: The goddamn CDC.

[–] conicalscientist@lemmy.world 15 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (7 children)

The internet is raising them. They aren't going outside and saying these things where at least one man would smack him upside the head in order to correct bad behavior. They aren't going outside and trying this shit on women who will reject their bad behaviors. Or worse running to legal trouble for harassing or assaulting women. Whereby it used to be the guy would self reflect and realize he's doing it wrong.

The internet is telling them stories about how these behaviors are what the "alpha" males are doing to successfully get all the women. What is the bullshit stat? Like 1% of top men get 99% of women or some stupid shit.

The internet lies to them, painting a dark twisted world. And then these guys go out to the real world to treat women in the way they think the world is some kind of dark world. They get extreme negative experiences. Which to them proves that the internet was right about everything.

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