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"To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on [...]"
...totally imaginary issues that only existed in right-wing hallucinations.
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Reid is a true American: it only matters once she herself is negatively affected.
Also even then it's no reason at all to take a step back and reevaluate how much of the original talking points were bullshit, too.
They didn’t “turn on” you. They were never on your fucking side to begin with, and you were a goddamn idiot for believing their very obvious and blatant lies to the contrary.
You were a hateful bigot but are upset you aren't immune to the bigotry you fuel is all this article says.
She also confirms she is still a bigot.
Oh no. You made a deal with the devil and it didn’t work out for you!? Who could have possibly seen that coming!?
When people marched in NYC after Stonewall, it was the whole community: LGBTQ. Once the police let off, all of the LGB types abandoned the rest of the community and went back to their well-paying jobs. This author is just like one of these unempathetic sorts.
I was ok hating minorities, but when they turned on my fellow lesbians and I, I done got upset!
Jesus fucking Christ these fucking people
The whole affair made something clear: for many on the right, their past tolerance of gay and bi people who aligned with them on a few pet issues was never rooted in principle. It was always about convenience. We were never truly accepted — just temporarily useful. And now that some of us have outlived our political utility, they’re more than happy to throw us to the wolves the moment the opportunity arises.
I am still incredulous at the existence of Log Cabin (gay male) Republicans, or even Peter Thiel.
Why on earth would you give any support to an organization dedicated to the destruction of people like you?
Does your own hatred of minorities and the poor make you willing to risk joining forces with those who are likely to come after you next?
This may have been explained earlier, apologies for any repetition on my end.
Internalized hatred is real and is a huge factor in this. Many people, when they feel they are on the ‘other’ side of oppression, easily take on the role of oppressors themselves. They believe they have ‘paid their dues’ and found success, and even feel as though they are even more qualified to judge and weigh the rights and qualifications of those in their previous position. It’s very similar to the mindset of older people who have paid off their student loans and staunchly believe that student loan forgiveness is wrong. They think that since they ‘put the work into it and upheld their end of the bargain’, it somehow diminishes their efforts if those that come after them have an easier path. Our confusion lies in the understanding that this is not the direction that progress exists.
Another point, which can be separate from the above or exist alongside: it is a simple fact that being a minority in any group does not mean that person is exempt from feeling prejudice or even discrimination towards minorities in other groups and anyone else for that matter. In a world ready to categorize, divide, and split the tiniest hairs to serve that aim, its a small wonder why we see so many hurt people hurting people.
Because Peter Thiel is a billionaire first and a gay man second. He knows that his wealth will insulate him from the consequences of his actions.
Because class beats race or sexual preference every time. Peter Thiel is rich first, gay second. Kanye is rich first, black second.
Those billionaires will use any means they can to accumulate power, just ask Gawker about it.
Peter Thiel has confidence that his own personal power will keep him safe. Since he's a sociopath, having homosexuality be illegal actually benefits him because if he gets tired of a relationship he can just out the other man and have them executed.
It's not entirely clear to me whether history supports his confidence. But little no-name "activists" like the article author are always going to be destroyed.
Exactly. It's not exactly like the right-wing hide their distain for all people of the LGBT spectra.
It's the classic "but I'm one of the good ones" trope. There's no such thing, just tokens to be used and tossed away.
No matter how much you try to be a "good one", you'll never truly be accepted amongst those who hate your kin. Once you've outlived your usefulness, they'll eat your face just like everyone else.
Does your own hatred of minorities and the poor make you willing to risk joining forces with those who are likely to come after you next?
Yes
When the “woke” mania swept the country in 2020, I took a step back and reevaluated where I stood and why I stood there. To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on a number of issues. I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory. I argued against biological males competing in women’s sports and being housed in women’s prisons. I did so loudly and publicly, losing many friends along the way. My stance wasn’t rooted in hate or fear but in a commitment to reason and fairness. My loyalty was to the truth, not to political tribes. Maintaining my integrity cost me greatly, but I believed it was worth it.
Hey Reid Newton: you're a bigot and a complete fucking moron. Anyone that has two functioning braincells figured out within 10 minutes of first hearing it that "critical race theory" was just a euphemism for "the honest history of how America has fucked over every racial minority consistently though its entire history". If you think that DEI or critical race theory are real problems, you have the critical thinking skills of a brick wall. Fuck this gal for trying to rationalize her betrayal of her own community.
100%
Also the "it wasn't a fear-based decision, I just rationally opposed all the forced child gender-transitions". It's not possible to roll ones eyes hard enough.
I actually do have empathy for a TERF who'd say, "I uncritically chugged conservative media and become terrified of stories about men 'transitioning' as a way to attach women. Now I see that was all lies and I was a fool who never tried putting myself in others' shoes."
also it was one fucking book that the PR machine blew out of proportion, I read it at the time and i really struggle to remember what was even in it, it was just some essays about the history of race in the US, which have just merged with all my other memories of similar stories
You'd have to have been asleep for the last 50 years at least to not see this.
It's the social trade-off to join the in-group. You get membership, but you're obligated to conform. So long as conformity is easy and light-weight, the appeal of joining the in-group can override your moral imperatives to others. But then the boundaries of acceptable behavior shift under your feet, and suddenly you can't be a part of the group without concealing or changing some fundamental part of your life.
Like, Reid Newton thinks gender transition and DEI and Critical Race Theory are all bullshit. Has she considered just... divorcing her wife and becoming straight? But no, that would be asking to much of herself. Suddenly, the cost of being a part of the in-group has grown too high, because it's a deeply personal cost.
Nope, this is natural.
Like, straight up default human behavior, and conservativesare actually really good at manipulating people using basic human psychology.
An absolute shit ton of people who grew up as "outsiders" really just want to be with the majority "in group" and are willing to side with them against smaller minorities.
Like, that's the whole TERF thing in a nutshell.
Women who were treated poorly for being women, and trying to side with their abusers against a weaker target.
It's literally the reason most mothers abuse their children. Same psychology, just different target.
Hell, it's the same reason weak men target women and children in the first place
An innate desire for a "human pecking order" that displays at varying rates due to normal human variation.
Racism too, LBJ described it generations ago after seeing firsthand what Republicans were doing in the South:
If you can convince the lowest white man he's better than the best colored man, he won't notice you're picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he'll empty his pockets for you."
https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/lbj-convince-the-lowest-white-man/
We need to understand why this keeps working to fight it...
Many will say I should have seen this coming — that the right has and always will be against LGBT rights. And maybe there’s some truth to that. But that just wasn’t my experience.
Yeah, no shit dumbass. They were acting nice because they were using you. Divide and conquer, exactly like all those people screaming at you were saying.
If only there was some kind of historical precedent so we could know what would happen immediately afterwards if, say, a prominent gay Nazi helped the Nazis exterminate trans people. Like, maybe if somebody had just appeased them by helping them exterminate one or two small minorities, they'd have mellowed out! Unfortunately, there was just no way to know this would happen. I mean, other than all the people who did predict it, but they clearly just got lucky.
On an unrelated note, I wonder if I could interest her in a nice set of long kitchen knives.
As a 29-year-old lesbian engaged to be married, this turn of events is personal for me. And it may be one I helped contribute to.
No. You absolutey and whole-heartedly helped contribute to it.
I worked toward what I believed — and still believe — to be true. I still oppose radical gender ideology and Critical Race Theory in schools. I still believe that biological males shouldn’t compete in women’s sports or be housed in women’s prisons. But I will not stand by while LGBT rights are legislated away.
Human Rights belong to all humans, you racist TERF.
Reid Newton, from the bottom of my heart: I hope your life goes as well as you treat trans people.
This person needs to develop self-awareness: why is it only becoming a problem when it affects her directly?
Her issue doesn’t affect me at all but I still want to do the right thing. And I would never vote for Trump because it was pretty clear he wouldn’t do the right thing, in many human right and quality of life scenarios
(Plus he had a long history as a con man from before he ran for election, before he paid for his sleazy reality show to reset his reputation: I’m still confused how people could fall for this)
why is it only becoming a problem when it affects her directly?
That's exactly why it's a problem. She literally details out in the article that she doesn't regret fighting against trans rights, they just need to stop now that they're focused on marriage equality.
Eh. Sounds like the queer version of a "the only moral abortion is my abortion" pro-lifer. It's kind of a thing over there.
why is it only becoming a problem when it affects her directly?
Based on that it kinda sounds like she is a conservative.
I wonder if this is just a bait article or she is this ignorant.
It seems to be a variation in the extent to which one can easily extend empathy outside close kin groups to more extended or even abstract kin groups that defines what makes someone constitutionally more conservative or more liberal. It has to do with fear thresholds and openness to experience traits too but also empathy scope. And so my conclusion is that this woman is constitutionally more inclined towards a conservative mindset and that this is independent of her sexual orientation. Too bad for her that other conservatives will never be reliable allies for her because, even though she identifies with them, they can't empathize with what she is.
Many will say I should have seen this coming — that the right has and always will be against LGBT rights. And maybe there’s some truth to that. But that just wasn’t my experience. I was met with open arms by this messy coalition of ex-Democrats and lifelong Republicans, many of whom still support me and my right to marry. I found a community committed to reason and truth. Perhaps I’m simply realizing that there are fewer of us than I originally thought. The radical right is on the warpath against liberalism, trampling centrists, libertarians, and reasonable ring-wingers in the process. Ultimately, I don’t regret my decision. I worked toward what I believed — and still believe — to be true. I still oppose radical gender ideology and Critical Race Theory in schools. I still believe that biological males shouldn’t compete in women’s sports or be housed in women’s prisons. But I will not stand by while LGBT rights are legislated away.
This bigot still hasn't learned. They don't regret anything they've done.
Yup. still a POS, only cares about the parts affecting her. Typical conservative.
Unironically using the phrase "radical left" while faking contrition.
Women who fall for conservatism are a special kind of stupid. They hate us, always. Even though we are the default and half the damn population.
I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory.
Never get tired of the "This Far And No Further" civil libertarian.
My personal circumstances always demand a socially protected designation. But everyone who isn't me? Idk, they seem extremist and scary.
Today, some of those same attorneys I worked with are advocating for my right to marry my fiancée to be stripped away.
Well, but of course. Because it's "This Far And No Further" for them, too.
If she wasn't gay herself, she'd be against gay people too.
seems like a ragebait propaganda piece used to divide us further, its those evil queers who caused Donald Trump to win the election.
What a fucking dumbass.
Many will say I should have seen this coming — that the right has and always will be against LGBT rights. And maybe there’s some truth to that. But that just wasn’t my experience. I was met with open arms by this messy coalition of ex-Democrats and lifelong Republicans, many of whom still support me and my right to marry. I found a community committed to reason and truth. Perhaps I’m simply realizing that there are fewer of us than I originally thought. The radical right is on the warpath against liberalism, trampling centrists, libertarians, and reasonable ring-wingers in the process. Ultimately, I don’t regret my decision. I worked toward what I believed — and still believe — to be true. I still oppose radical gender ideology and Critical Race Theory in schools. I still believe that biological males shouldn’t compete in women’s sports or be housed in women’s prisons. But I will not stand by while LGBT rights are legislated away.
Read: "The only rights that should be protected are mine."
There must be a path to redemption, but this one ain't on it.
Many on the cultural right are forgetting something critical: same-sex marriage doesn’t infringe upon anyone else’s rights. A crucial argument against gender ideology was the infringement on women’s rights. But unlike trans edge cases such as women’s sports or prisons, marriage isn’t a zero-sum issue. There isn’t a finite number of spots on the “marriage team.” My getting married takes nothing away from straight couples.
It's too bad they're both too incurious to think for themselves and so media-illiterate that they haven't read The Handmaid's Tale... Obviously lesbian couples can be broken up and forced into miserable straight marriages and this is precisely what the right would want to do! (It's even part of the American past that MAGA wants to return to!)
Sucks to suck
It was an interesting read.
By the way, the paragraph you quoted is oddly cut. The whole paragraph reads:
When the “woke” mania swept the country in 2020, I took a step back and reevaluated where I stood and why I stood there. To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on a number of issues. I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory. I argued against biological males competing in women’s sports and being housed in women’s prisons. I did so loudly and publicly, losing many friends along the way. My stance wasn’t rooted in hate or fear but in a commitment to reason and fairness. My loyalty was to the truth, not to political tribes. Maintaining my integrity cost me greatly, but I believed it was worth it.
Later on she says:
The conservative movement has a choice to make: will they stay true to their promises of liberty and limited government, or will they use the levers of power to impose their preferred moral order? I joined forces with them because I believed in the former. I fear they are choosing the latter.
which highlights are key internal division in republicans: small government (i.e. being consistently liberal) or imposing one's own moral order?
The article seems to imply that some people vote republican because they think it's a vote for liberalism, ironically.
That's the raw problem: they don't question what “small government” means, all the while she praxied big government praxis:
- I opposed childhood gender transitions, 2) unlawful and 3) divisive DEI mandates, and the 4) excesses of Critical Race Theory. I argued 5) against biological males competing in women’s sports and being 6) housed in women’s prisons. 7) I did so loudly and 8) publicly
She‘s incapable of retrospecting she is in favor of big government over-reaches because she wants those rulings against others, not herself. “Law for thee, not me”
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