And I think it's just what it is to have ADHD and the like. Knowing you have it is not the same as accepting is a part of yourself and making changes that reflect that acceptance. Like, when I get hyper focused on a new hobby I always try to remind myself that if I don't actually want to commit I shouldn't go all out and spend a bunch of money and put in a bunch of effort for something that I won't want in 2 months. Because that's how you end up with a $400 3D printer that sits in the corner collecting dust. But something I do like is making music. Sure, I don't work on it literally all the time, but I keep it in the back of my mind as something I actually want to do and put effort into.
I'm not saying that dating is like a hyper-fixation or anything like that and I kinda lost the plot halfway through that comment, but the key takeaway I'd say is understanding and accepting yourself. Know what you want and what you are willing to go through to get there and don't expect results before you even make an effort. Dating is a game of trial and error and it's hard for even NTs to find what they are looking for. And basing what you want off of other people's experiences will only make it harder to find out what you want and what you are capable of.
As much as it's hard to resist laughing at them for believing Trump, these people are in legitimate danger. They're getting no due process and are being sent wherever the fuck Trump wants to send them basically because they aren't white. And if we can't defend these people, regardless of whether or not the leopards ate their face, we will have nobody to defend us when it's our turn. It's not a matter of "if" but "when."
And on the flip side, if you still support this shit show of an administration after everything we have seen, I hold nothing but absolute disdain. I can kinda understand falling for the grift and I can forgive someone if they realize they fucked up, but we are way past the point of plausible deniability if you still think this is at all a good thing.