Not financial advice and i do not have adhd.
Being neurodivergent is not a choice, so having to feel sorry for yourself, over something out of your control, seems like a bad idea.
I think it's fine that you try to cater to a neurotypical partner, but i feel like she could be more understanding of it.
If your partner feels hurt over how your brain literally works, maybe she is not understanding enough.
I would try to let my partner know how my brain works, if you are fine with it nice, otherwise maybe staying together is detrimental to both of us.
Wish you luck!
Not financial advice and i do not have adhd.
Being neurodivergent is not a choice, so having to feel sorry for yourself, over something out of your control, seems like a bad idea.
I think it's fine that you try to cater to a neurotypical partner, but i feel like she could be more understanding of it.
If your partner feels hurt over how your brain literally works, maybe she is not understanding enough.
I would try to let my partner know how my brain works, if you are fine with it nice, otherwise maybe staying together is detrimental to both of us.
Wish you luck!