Where I live I don't think there is any difference between married and common-law, and even if there was most people actually get married at their city hall, with only a witness and government worker present.
The great big party that people still have is totally by choice.
It doesn't have to cost a lot of money. Mine was maybe 2 thousand and actually broke even thanks to very generous cash gifts, but even without that it would have been worth it to get all our friends and family under one roof to publicly profess our love.
If you truly love your partner, does a ring and a ceremony really do anything?
Yeah. In the same way that any other shared experience or token does, but this is a very public one that is built up by our cultures and we can imbue with special meaning.
It's not for everyone, and it can be problematic, but I'm happy I got married and got the magic ring and all that.
What a wonderful mental scene you have crafted for us. Thank you.
Like, all the time.
Every time i get out of shower (barring summer), for one.
Weirdly, I know of more women who listen to joe rogan than men (okay, the numbers are 2 to 0, so not that mindblowing). I don't fucking get it.
It was the same thing with friends who liked Elon Musk before he went fully mask off after buying Twitter. Who he was, and the function he provided, was so completely obvious to anyone who was paying attention. I don't get how anyone could miss it.
How to pull them out of the bog, no idea.
For my part I've just confessed my ignorance of what's going on on the commercial web, and shared with them the kinds of conversations I'm have on the non-commercial parts (fedi, email, chats, smol web, etc), which are usually nicer and more productive.
Although to certain extent I still consider this here a form a social media... and I'm not actually sure that it's good for us past a certain number of people. It might be "more cacophony than community" to quote one of Matthew Graybosch's blog posts.
It is better here than on the mainstream social medias, though. That's for sure for sure.
EDIT anyway, that's a total aside. I just couldn't help picking up that one thread. Good comment. I love your approach.
Even if they come back. It's not worth the labour to hold their hand through that shit. Maybe their mom or dad can talk some sense into them, but I sure as shit wouldn't want to live with someone like that while they figure out how to screw their head back on straight.
Confirmed. Sometimes I start a sentence and don't even know what my point is until I get to the end of it! I am a total fool. But at least I'm not a fuckin chud.
Still, 41% sounds absolutely critical level, like we need to stop all society and have a conversation, because that is so uncool.
Fucking 41... Like that is a plurality. That is a whole fucking lot of wrong people. That is entirely too many bros. I'm not sure I can impart just how disappointing that number is.
My friend still has his. Let me tell you, that thing has a presence.
The 90s: I used to use it back in the day, until one time I volunteered for a handicapped kids event, and saw how this one kid with Downs got really upset at someone calling him "the 'R' word" (I had never heard it put that way, or even considered it as truly harmful).
Anyway, I wiped it from my vocabulary after that. I still consider it a slur, unlike idiot, which is more generic, and not used as a specific slur against intellectually disabled folks.
Unless that one commission is standing between them and survival then I think we can say they're slightly to blame. They're a part of the problem anyway.