Ask Lemmy

First time I drove across the county and saw the state of his house and decided to still sleep there (in my defense the bed was clean). Then not only that, spent the next day while he was at work absolutely annihilating that bedroom. 10 trash bags, 5 loads of laundry, everything scrubbed down top to bottom and then a second time with disinfectant.

Then, coming back multiple times to help him tackle the rest of the house. Mental health is no joke, things spiral fast and before you know it, one depression day is a few years and you have no idea how to climb out of it and you're far too embarrassed to ask for help.

I'm happy to say, it's been about a year of a weekend here and there and what he's been doing on his own and we've gone from, can't walk anywhere to, this is nice. We can just exist and relax and live. There's some deep cleaning here and there left but the trash is gone and the place is no longer a bio hazard.

It might sound like I've done a lot for him but, he's done so much for me as well. I have no regrets.

I left them.

I was a bad influence, and being around me would have fucked up their life. I lied, said I didn't care, and left.

After reading the replies:
Damn, i want to do something crazy for someone.

Dated a trans guy for several years, thought I would marry him. Paid for his top surgery. Got it done at the same time I got my bottom surgery. We broke up a year later. Don't pay for someone's medical treatment unless you're married to them. :/

They were about to become homeless. I paid for their trip to me. I paid and did all the bureaucracy stuff and paid for their language courses hobbys and other. Only now they got a job, after 3 years of searching, that has them indipendend from me. Today they are my husband

I'd love to hear a little more about how you handle your situation.

Is it a friendly status quo they have, or is it war footing?

opened up the relationship.

then, once i had women interested in sleeping with me she freaked the fuck out and said it would be cheating if I did it, that 'we' shouldn't have done that and then all the sudden she wanted to be monogamous again, after months of asking to open things up so we could 'both see other people'. because it wasn't cheating if she wanted to have sex with other people... that was me being 'lacking an open mind' or being 'insecure'.

least to say we broke up a few months later. i have dated some other poly/enm women and it was always just like that... the second they found out I with someone else they immediately told me it was cheating on them.

which is why i no longer bother with people who even hint at enm anymore. complete double standards.

OP, how is this not incredibly awkward?!

I married her. That’s pretty crazy to dedicate your entire life to one person. But I knew I found my soulmate for life. Been married for over 20 years now.

I once moved to Kentucky for a gay relationship

My cousin dropped out of college for some dude. Full ride and everything. My uncle was PISSED.

Left my home to fly across the country with no backup plan and a few hundred bucks to my name. We’re married and have been together since.

Carrying a body is always easier with two people

I flew to Japan.

Maybe you could revenge sex the shit out of that wife, as in have sex with your boyfriend so much and so loudly that she goes insane?

I climbed one of those construction site cranes to prove my courage. I was 13 or 14 years old. Today I'm 37 and in retrospect, all I proved was my stupidity and carelessness. What a waste. She turned out to be a backstabbing, cheating, lying, hateful, racist bitch with capital B. Give me my feelings back. 😭💔