More and more men are getting sick and tired of women who think they are behaving like other men, but who are actually just being colossal assholes.

And if we were to hold them to the same degree of accountability as men are, they have total meltdowns. The “who hurt you?” being exhibit № 1 of someone facing the discomfort of true accountability, and desperately trying to deflect and reframe.

Healthy boundaries can be deeply offensive to the privileged.

Yes. The long way of saying there is a double standard.

It's when she says she doesn't want fries, then eats most of your fries.

For me, it's not so much the idea of paying. Although most women I've dated have preferred to split the bill and I'm alright with that because it's their choice and they're choosing independence. I find that attractive.

For me, the issue is the fact that even while dismantling the idea of gender roles that previously applied to women, so many people still expect men to conform to certain gender roles, i.e. "pay for dates," "be a breadwinner/protector," "take the risks/initiative by asking the questions, making the moves, etc." (but not the wrong moves! Be confident, but not too confident!).

Of course, if a man thinks of himself as a breadwinner or a protector, people say that makes him a misogynist. But if he fails to perform those roles, then he's "not a real man" and "undatable." And people wonder why there aren't more examples of healthy masculinity? Do you understand how difficult it is to navigate all this mixed messaging?

So basically, even though I find myself attracted to independent women, if I say something to the effect of "I prefer dating women who split the bill," most people would call me cheap, or accuse me of fetishizing independent women, and either way I'd still end up being called a misogynist.

I don't date anymore, cause I got sick of all the hoops I had to jump through only to still be wrong. Sorry, but I have more self-respect than that (barely).

For what it’s worth, she might have found someone she liked and disabled the app with no bearing on you or your quality.

Or in the case of my friends, find someone she didn’t like enough that she’s taking a break from the apps.

Having a vagina means that you will get hundreds of messages. Some will be so bad that you will want to immediately delete the app. It’s a cacophony of dick picks and men who will just confess to the most fucked up things as an opener.

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