This is too much.
No one in this thread is going out of their way to improperly use anyone's pronouns.
We're assuming the pronoun sure I'll grant you that. OP's partner is a dude more than likely, but I guess I don't really know?
It does feel like that based on how the post read.
Edit: after re-reading OP is REALLY going out of their way to use the terms partner and they/them
So I guess that would be the correct pronoun and only ones to use
Wow quite a super interesting read.
The doors of perception can be opened to many different avenues.