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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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[–] Borger@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I don't feel like I can give you literal conversation starters that aren't super boring or generic (like chats about the weather), without way more context than is possible to obtain at this stage.

But, one thing that did help me strike conversations and eventually friendships with people, was just hanging around campus doing stuff that piqued other people's interest.

A couple of times it was me playing on my Nintendo 3DS between lectures, and once someone even came up to me to compliment my Sony Discman.

Other times it might be something as simple as there not being any empty tables in the cafeteria, so you ask to sit with someone. If they're not clearly busy or studying, you might start by asking what course they do, how they're finding it, etc. These are all fairly passive approaches though, and that's possibly related to my extreme introversion.

A slightly more active suggestion – take advantage of group assignments! (As much as I hate them.) Make plans to meet up. Get a few hours of work done together then hang out with a few beers or a soda or whatever. Win-win.

[–] steeznson@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I've got something for you guys...

reach into coat pocket

hold up thumb with a sight tremour

... a good time!

grimace while trying to smile

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[–] baltakatei@sopuli.xyz 3 points 3 months ago

“Hey, I'm kinda lost [and you look a bit lost too]. Do you mind if we band together until we figure things out?”

The one thing that people like to talk about, more than any other thing, is themselves. Ask the right questions and ask follow-up questions. You'll find that if you do that and and you're polite about it, people warm up to you pretty quickly without you having to say a whole lot.

Stuff like the most (and/or least) interesting things they did this summer are good places to start.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 3 points 3 months ago

I'm not much for small talk. Instead of following a formula, I try to find a way to be genuinely interested in the other person, then ask questions without making them uncomfortable. For me this has been the best way to get to know people I get along with.

[–] thespcicifcocean@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Ask them if they knew that g is roughly pi^2, and ask them if they knew it's not a coincidence

[–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

How would it not be a coincidence?

[–] thespcicifcocean@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago (3 children)

okay, so.

the meter used to be how long a line had to be on a pendulum for it to have a periodicity of one second. This got re-evaluated and standardized to what it is now, which is 1/10,000,000 the length between the equator and the north pole. but that number itself was chosen because it's pretty close to what the meter was before it was set to that value. So the length of the line to get that period on a pendulum is about a meter, and gravity also has an effect on the speed a pendulum swings.

https://medium.com/@roitman.io/a-wonderful-coincidence-or-an-expected-connection-why-%CF%80%C2%B2-g-6e2f9a04e30e

I read something about it on stack exchange, but couldn't find that link anymore, but the one above has the same info

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[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago

charlie kirk is right.

women shouldn't have a choice.

voting should be restricted to men and property owners.

you didn't say what you wanted the outcome of the conversations to be, nor the volume they should be had at.

I can guarantee you will have a reaction to the above.

[–] LogicalDrivel@sopuli.xyz 3 points 3 months ago

Im terrible with small talk. I recently just got a customer facing job, which I had been trying to avoid, and it has honestly helped me a lot. I think like some others have said, conversation is a skill. The more you do it, the better you get. Here is an actual tip though - if you just let people yap about themselves, they will love you for it. I get tons of compliments on my customer service because people love talking about themselves and I don't interrupt.

[–] parpol@programming.dev 3 points 3 months ago

Show them your white crystal

[–] Padit@feddit.org 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Hey! I am new here, and I would like to get my fellow students. My name is u/pineapple lover, who are you?

By the way, the English language needs a word for fellow student. In german that's Kommilitone. It's a good word.

[–] HurricaneLiz@hilariouschaos.com 1 points 3 months ago

Lol but why would we use one word from one language when we can use two words from two different languages? /s

[–] Twig@sopuli.xyz 2 points 3 months ago
[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

Hey, what major are you interested in?

[–] nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 months ago (3 children)

have you ever killed a man?

[–] nialv7@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

No.....? Have you?

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[–] FenderStratocaster@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

"Did you see that guy on a horse go by? Yeah, it was just a guy riding by on a horse."

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemmy.zip 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

This might work on anyone who is a They Might Be Giants fan or it'll just catch people off guard and possibly make them think you're weird, but some lyrics to recite:

They call me Dr. Worm. Good morning, how are you? I'm Dr. Worm. I'm interested in things. I'm not a real doctor, but I am a real worm.

If it does work, IDK because I don't really know how to start conversations all that well without being pretty awkward.

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