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Do you feel your can be open about it with a potential employer?

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[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

No and you shouldn't. You should not disclose any information to a potential employer before a contract is signed and even afterwards you may want to withhold disclosing until after your probationary period or ever at all.

Employers don't need to know personal health information unless you're using it to request accommodations and the more information you give an employer the more likely they'll somehow use it to fuck you over.

Modern employment is an adversarial relationship and if you think it isn't you're getting fucked.

[–] Venator@lemmy.nz 1 points 1 month ago

Modern employment is an adversarial relationship and if you think it isn't you're getting fucked.

The one exception to this might be in the case of nepotism, but even then, it depends πŸ˜‚

[–] theneverfox@pawb.social 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Hell no. So many people think "it's not real, you just need to try harder", or they think "it's real, so I need to look even closer for any mistakes or sloppiness" and develop confirmation bias

If you need accommodations, I would go through HR, and I'd probably wait until after the fact even if that weakens your legal protections

I might confide in my boss eventually, but probably by telling them without telling them - I'll tell them my brain works in a weird way, that I need to walk to process information, that I need music/videos playing in the background because it actually helps my focus

Regardless, I've even been warned off by older co-workers (I failed a drug test for my meds, even though I brought the bottle) who said even if it's illegal some people will try to get rid of me anyways

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

You should never confide in your employer. Employment is an adversarial relationship and people have gotten fucked over by bad bosses for disclosing things they really shouldn't've. Only disclose information if it's advantageous to you.

[–] jimmux@programming.dev 1 points 1 month ago

That bloody confirmation bias.

I was a model employee for many years. Every review was, "you're one of our brightest, keep doing what you're doing". Then I requested some accommodations for my chronic migraines, and they put me under a microscope. Suddenly I was still getting the most complex work because I was the only person they trusted to do it, but now it was an issue that I didn't churn through change requests as fast as other employees who only do simple bug fixes.

When I got diagnosed with ADHD I thought it would give me some breathing room if I told them. That just made it worse. Now I had to be on a management plan. Now every review was laser focused in churn rate, and completely ignored all my above-and-beyond contributions.

I think their long term plan was to either make me give up accommodations or leave, because they didn't want anyone else thinking they could get "special treatment".

[–] ray1992xd@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Yes, I did! I mentioned it when they asked about my downsides. Gave them all the downsides + the upsides of it. Like, I lose focus more than other people, but I am extremely calm in an emergency. I might have trouble planning but I think "outside the box". In my field of interest, what happens to be my work, I learn quicker than most. I might oversleep, but when something needs fixing, consider it fixed. Even if I have to work all night. Also explained how I try to manage the symptoms.

ADHD is often seen as only negative but if you also take the positives, you become more valuable to outside perspective. Just stick to the real positives though, don't try to make any up that aren't there. They will notice.

I was the least experienced candidate from what I heard, but I was hired and looking at fixed employment in a few months!

I won't hide it. If they feel I'm not right for an employer the way I am, they are not the right employer for me.

Yes. If I feel comfortable enough to want to work somewhere during/after an interview, I feel comfortable enough to talk about my challenges as well as my strengths. I spent decades unaware of this part of myself and why I couldn't function like I was expected to - I don't want to go back to struggling to pass as "normal" and fail those expectations. I am lucky enough to be able to set different expectations for how I do my job well, now.

I'm in northern Europe, and I don't think I've been discriminated against because of this. I have asked and gotten accommodations for tests during the interview process (more time), which then led to interviews.

I have disclosed my ADHD and received job offers in my last two interviews. My ADHD tells me I can do both jobs, because fun! My experience tells me to pick the one where I can work from home part time.

It much depends on where you are, your field of work and your seniority/experience.

[–] Xuderis@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Do not disclose disabilities before you are hired. You are under no legal obligation to do so. Disabilities are a matter between you and HR after you are hired.

[–] sunbytes@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

HR will probably "let slip" to management about it in a small enough company.

So there's something to be said for expecting it to come out eventually.

But it's good to have as much time as possible to prove yourself before that happens.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Even after being hired I'd discourage revealing disabilities unless you're specifically using the disclosure to request accommodations.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I only disclose it if it's a job where I potentially may need some level of accomodation doing the job because of my ADHD.

[–] sunbytes@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

But only after the interview! And maybe even after any probationary period if you can manage it. I've seen a lot of stories about prejudice and discrimination starting the moment the employee discloses their condition to their employer (e.g. immediately being put on a personal improvement plan)

[–] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 month ago

It's not something they need to know about, and certainly not something that should be specifically disclosed at an interview.

The only reason to disclose is if I need a specific "reasonable accommodation" from them to be able to do the job, and they indicate they are unwilling to make that accommodation without a formal request under the ADA. I won't be making even an informal request for accommodation prior to actually starting the job.

[–] fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

They can’t discriminate against hiring you for the ADHD, but they can for anything else they feel like.

[–] sunbytes@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

They can also lie about what the real reason is.

"Not a good fit" etc. generic reasons

[–] MeepMorp@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

No. There's no good reason to, and a few good ones not to. Chiefly, they could reject you and make up any other reason why.

[–] ProgrammingSocks@pawb.social -1 points 1 month ago

Nope. There is still a big stigma. I report nothing.